ADHD & Life Expectancy: Unpacking the Truth and Finding Hope with Dr. Jessica Stern

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Key takeaways:

  • Why the recent study about ADHD and shorter lifespan isn't as scary as it seems
  • The most common risk factors associated with unmanaged ADHD
  • How early diagnosis and lifestyle strategies can mitigate long-term health risks
  • Tips for supporting a loved one with ADHD in a compassionate, empowering way
  • Why ADHD is often misunderstood—and why we’re still underdiagnosing it, especially in women

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Key takeaways:

  • Why the recent study about ADHD and shorter lifespan isn't as scary as it seems
  • The most common risk factors associated with unmanaged ADHD
  • How early diagnosis and lifestyle strategies can mitigate long-term health risks
  • Tips for supporting a loved one with ADHD in a compassionate, empowering way
  • Why ADHD is often misunderstood—and why we’re still underdiagnosing it, especially in women

Connect with Dr. Jessica Stern
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Mayhem to Magic

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Dr. Amelia Kelley: About | Dr. Kelley's Books | Instagram

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Key takeaways: Why the recent study about ADHD and shorter lifespan isn't as scary as it seems The most common risk factors associated with unmanaged ADHD How early diagnosis and lifestyle strategies can mitigate long-term health risks Tips for supporting a loved one with ADHD in a compassionate, empowering way Why ADHD is often misunderstood—and why we’re still underdiagnosing it, especially in women Connect with Dr. Jessica Stern Instagram LinkedIn Website Mayhem to Magic EPISODE LINKS Dr. Amelia Kelley: About | Dr. Kelley's Books | Instagram…
 
Key Takeaways: Feeling drained, over-identifying with achievement, or struggling to disconnect from work. Symptoms like chronic fatigue, irritability, disconnection from joy, and lack of motivation can signal burnout rather than just stress. A balanced approach to achievement that aligns with your values and doesn’t deplete you. A powerful strategy to avoid overwhelm by sorting new projects and opportunities before committing. Learning to say "no" in small ways to protect your time and energy. Breaking the mindset that doing nothing is a waste of time and recognizing that downtime fuels creativity and efficiency. Connect with Dr. Jessica Stern Instagram LinkedIn Website Mayhem to Magic EPISODE LINKS Dr. Amelia Kelley: About | Dr. Kelley's Books | Instagram…
 
Key Takeaways: True intimacy starts when we acknowledge and accept both our polished public selves and the hidden parts we may be reluctant to face. Internal Family Systems (IFS) provides a framework to explore the various “parts” of our personality, including those that are exiled due to childhood experiences. While the initial excitement of a new relationship can be exhilarating, sustainable intimacy is built on vulnerability, honesty, and a deep understanding of oneself. Labels such as “sex addiction” or “narcissist” can oversimplify complex human behaviors; a nuanced approach is needed to understand underlying issues. Early experiences of rejection and embarrassment help build the resilience needed to navigate deeper relationships and develop a healthy, enduring connection. Our sexual behaviors and relationship dynamics are heavily influenced by societal norms and personal values, which can complicate how we view our actions and needs. Connect with Gary Katz: Website Instagram LinkedIn EPISODE LINKS Dr. Amelia Kelley: About | Dr. Kelley's Books | Instagram…
 
Key takeaways: The Drama Triangle highlights common toxic roles in relationships—Victim, Persecutor, and Rescuer—that often stem from early life experiences and lead to conflict, blame, and resentment. Recognizing when you’re playing one of these roles is the first step in breaking free from unhealthy relationship cycles. Codependency often manifests in the Rescuer role, where individuals overextend themselves to fix others, leading to emotional exhaustion and stunted personal growth. The Observer Triangle offers a transformative approach: Victim → Observer : Fosters self-awareness and mindfulness. Persecutor → Asserter : Promotes healthy boundaries and respectful communication. Rescuer → Nurturer : Provides support without enabling or sacrificing self-care. Establishing clear, respectful boundaries is essential for maintaining healthy relationships and prioritizing self-care. Practical tools like the HALT method (checking if you are Hungry, Angry, Lonely, or Tired) help regulate emotions and shift interactions from drama to empowerment Connect with Kitty Chambliss: Visit her website Follow her on Instagram Article by Lynne Forrest: The Three Faces of Victim – An Overview of the Victim Triangle EPISODE LINKS Dr. Amelia Kelley: About | Dr. Kelley's Books | Instagram…
 
Key Takeaways: Healing begins by restoring your connection to yourself—emotionally, mentally, and physically. Movement, mindfulness, and reflection are key components. Monitoring your inner dialogue can create profound shifts. Transform self-criticism into supportive and kind thoughts to foster growth. While journaling helps process emotions, combining it with action-oriented exercises leads to deeper transformation. Reflect on past relationship patterns rooted in childhood and how they might be influencing your current dating or relationship behaviors. Rebuild self-worth by intentionally spending time alone through solo adventures, small self-care activities, or even larger journeys. Identify core values, essential qualities, and the feelings you want to consistently experience within a healthy relationship. Move from a mindset of helplessness to one of empowerment by understanding how you can actively influence and shape your life. Learn more about Emmi Fortin: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/emmifortin/ Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/emmifortin/ Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/@emmifortin EPISODE LINKS Dr. Amelia Kelley: About | Dr. Kelley's Books | Instagram…
 
Key Takeaways: Learn about the biological and neurological differences that define highly sensitive people, and how this evolutionary trait exists across species. Understand the overlap between high sensitivity, empathy, and introversion, and why highly sensitive individuals are often more likely to become empaths. How your surroundings, including noise, lighting, and energy from others, can either overwhelm or support your highly sensitive nervous system. Why boundaries are essential and how highly sensitive people can set them without guilt. Explore sound therapy, grounding techniques, and acupuncture as tools to regulate your nervous system and unlock your full potential. How to channel your sensitivity into creative pursuits, deep connections, and self-compassion. When empathy turns into exhaustion and what to do about it. Connect with Michelle Oravitz: Website: MichelleOravitz.com Instagram: @thewholesomelotusfertility Podcast: The Wholesome Fertility Podcast EPISODE LINKS Dr. Amelia Kelley: About | Dr. Kelley's Books | Instagram…
 
Key takeaways: Trauma is not about the event itself but the body’s reaction and its inability to recover, which can lock the nervous system into states of dis-ease. Effective leadership stems from fostering trust and safety, whether in parenting, coaching, or workplace settings. Small practices, like scanning your environment for safety cues, can regulate your nervous system and bring a sense of grounding. High achievers thrive when they operate in a safe physiological state, where effort meets ease and challenges become opportunities. Recognizing how your body feels moment-to-moment helps in understanding triggers and developing resilience. Connect with Michael on LinkedIn Check Michael's website - The Play Zone Learn with Polyvagal Institute EPISODE LINKS Dr. Amelia Kelley: About | Dr. Kelley's Books | Instagram…
 
Key takeaways: Music has a unique ability to mimic the effects of meditation, calming the mind, reducing cortisol, and lowering heart rate. Specific frequencies, like 432 Hz and 528 Hz, have measurable physiological benefits, including stress reduction and emotional regulation. Chanting, practiced across cultures, creates a connection to gratitude, spirituality, and communal healing, even for non-musicians. Surrounding yourself with healing frequencies or personal "feel-good" songs can shift your mood, create a peaceful environment, and promote relaxation. Music can unify communities, transcending cultural and political divides. It is a powerful tool for fostering connection and uplifting collective energy. Connect with DPAK on Instagram Listen to Together We Rise EPISODE LINKS Dr. Amelia Kelley: About | Dr. Kelley's Books | Instagram…
 
Key Takeaways: Karla and Chelsea share how they met online and created a supportive community for moms, fostering connection and collaboration despite never having met in person. They discuss the importance of giving yourself grace and celebrating small wins, reshaping the narrative around mom guilt to focus on doing your best each day. They explain how time blocking and intentional scheduling help structure their day for maximum productivity while staying fully present with their families. They emphasize the value of independent play for children, highlighting how fostering quiet time nurtures imagination and alleviates the pressure on moms to constantly entertain. They highlight the power of partnership, showing how honest communication and teamwork in both business and parenting can lead to greater success and support. Connect with Karla and Chelsea: Abundant Management: Website | Instagram Abundant Academy Virtual Summit: Join Here EPISODE LINKS Dr. Amelia Kelley: About | Dr. Kelley's Books | Instagram…
 
Key takeaways: Understanding insomnia beyond poor sleep: Insomnia isn’t just about sleeping less—it impacts every aspect of your life, from your mood to your ability to function. Why more time in bed doesn’t equal better sleep: Trying harder to sleep and spending excessive time in bed can disrupt your body clock and make sleep quality worse. The power of sleep drive and body clock: Discover how aligning with your body’s natural sleep drive and rhythms can lead to consistent, restful sleep. Breaking free from obsessive rituals: Sleep supplements, strict routines, and control-based habits often increase anxiety and worsen insomnia. Rebuilding your relationship with rest: Focus on creating an enjoyable, relaxing wind-down routine instead of forcing yourself into rigid sleep practices. Compassionate CBTI approach: A softer, more flexible approach to CBTI can be especially beneficial for highly sensitive individuals and those with neurodivergence. Why good sleep isn’t perfect sleep: Sleep is inherently imperfect—accepting this imperfection can reduce sleep anxiety and improve rest. Addressing shift work and irregular schedules: Learn effective strategies for adjusting your sleep routine if you work night shifts or irregular hours. Learn more about Joseph Pannell: YouTube: Insomnia Talks Website: SleepZee EPISODE LINKS Dr. Amelia Kelley: About | Dr. Kelley's Books | Instagram…
 
Key Takeaways: Resolutions should reflect your true self. Before committing to a goal, ask: Is this for me, or for someone else? The Queen’s Path reframes empowerment. Women’s journey isn’t about being a hero but claiming sovereignty over their lives. Motivation is fleeting; discipline sustains. Don’t rely on dopamine highs—focus on purposeful discipline for lasting change. External validation can derail your goals. Be mindful of whose input you seek and ensure it aligns with your values. Highly sensitive people are prone to external influences. Taking time to reflect helps distinguish your own desires from others’. Break down large goals into smaller steps. Starting early and easing into resolutions makes sustaining them more achievable. Sharing isn’t submission. Sharing your goals can invite connection and support without needing external approval. Your journey, your timeline. Whether it’s writing a book or mastering a skill, find what truly brings you fulfillment. Connect with Dr. Stacey Simmons Visit her website here Follow her on Instagram EPISODE LINKS Dr. Amelia Kelley: About | Dr. Kelley's Books | Instagram…
 
Key Takeaways: Trauma is not just what happens to us but what we hold inside in the absence of empathetic support. Somatic Experiencing provides a gentle and embodied approach to healing, contrasting methods that retraumatize by forcing people to relive their experiences. The "wounded healer" archetype highlights the importance of therapists addressing their own trauma to support others effectively. Safe relationships are essential for working through trauma, including the echoes of betrayal that can show up in new interactions. Healing involves acknowledging trauma, processing it through embodied experiences, and integrating it into the past where it belongs. Somatic Experiencing has grown into a global movement, taught in over 40 countries, empowering countless practitioners to help others heal. Vulnerability and shared experiences can deepen understanding and foster greater empathy in the journey of healing Dr. Peter Levine: An Autobiography of Trauma: A Healing Journey | Other Books | Somatic Experiencing | Facebook | Instragram | LinkedIn | Youtube EPISODE LINKS Dr. Amelia Kelley: About | Dr. Kelley's Books | Instagram…
 
Key takeaways: Highly sensitive children process overstimulation more intensely, making empathy and understanding essential in helping them navigate overwhelming situations. Building resilience in highly sensitive kids comes from connection, validation, and understanding—not from forcing them to "toughen up" or dismissing their struggles. Sensitivity is a strength that brings creativity, empathy, and deep insight. These traits should be celebrated and nurtured rather than seen as weaknesses. Parents who recognize their own sensitivity can better support their children by modeling self-compassion, emotional regulation, and healthy boundaries. Balancing empathy with empowerment is key to supporting highly sensitive children. Encouraging problem-solving and independence helps them build confidence while feeling understood. EPISODE LINKS Dr. Amelia Kelley: About | Dr. Kelley's Books | Instagram…
 
Key takeaways: Overthinking can be a major barrier for adults with ADHD, but understanding its patterns—like thought loops and spirals—can help break free from inaction. Creativity thrives when overthinking is managed, allowing ADHDers to leverage their unique strengths without being trapped by perfectionism. The PAM Method (Pause, Affirm and Allow, Move) offers a simple, effective way to disrupt overthinking and take intentional steps forward. Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) is common among ADHDers, but acknowledging and working through these feelings can pave the way for meaningful progress. Waiting for the "perfect moment" often leads to paralysis; launching imperfectly can be the key to growth and success. Anxiety often peaks within 90 seconds physiologically—beyond that, it’s our thoughts that perpetuate the distress, making mindset shifts a critical tool. Body doubling, even in the form of self-compassionate self-talk, can be a powerful way to stay focused and productive. Practical tools like scheduling tasks as calendar appointments rather than endless lists help ADHDers take actionable steps toward their goals. Vulnerability, self-acceptance, and affirmations are essential to overcoming procrastination and self-doubt, especially in high-pressure situations. Empowering ADHDers with actionable, evidence-based tools can transform perceived weaknesses into opportunities for success. Follow Justin Gillespie Instagram Tiktok Listen to his podcast EPISODE LINKS Dr. Amelia Kelley: About | Dr. Kelley's Books | Instagram…
 
Key Takeaways Sensitivity in leadership is often masked due to societal expectations, especially for men, but embracing it can foster authentic connections and stronger teams. Forgiveness is not about excusing past behavior but about releasing yourself and others from the emotional weight of trauma. Sensitivity, when understood and harnessed, is a strength that can lead to deeper empathy, connection, and effective leadership. Removing the “mask” of toughness allows individuals to align with their true selves and connect more meaningfully with others. Coaching and therapy are powerful tools for identifying emotional blind spots and fostering personal and professional growth. Vulnerability in leadership and personal relationships creates space for genuine understanding and deeper trust. Generational trauma can shape behavior but can be broken through self-awareness, healing, and intentional actions. Cognitive behavioral therapy and mental health skills provide practical strategies to manage stress, reframe thoughts, and build resilience. Simple moments of connection, like acknowledging someone’s emotions or sharing personal truths, can have a profound impact on relationships. Embracing sensitivity in men challenges outdated stereotypes and encourages a healthier, more balanced view of masculinity. Forgiving others, even in challenging circumstances, can be a transformative act that leads to inner peace and emotional freedom. Trauma-informed leadership emphasizes the importance of recognizing and addressing emotional well-being in professional settings. Personal healing journeys often begin with self-reflection and are supported by therapy, coaching, and intentional relationships. Sensitivity and resilience are not opposites; they coexist and complement each other in creating empowered individuals. Follow Tom Dutta Instagram Youtube Listen to his podcast "The Quiet Warrior Show" EPISODE LINKS Dr. Amelia Kelley: About | Dr. Kelley's Books | Instagram…
 
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