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E19 Threesome fantasy? How to talk to your partner about it (and make it happen)
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Threesomes are one of the most common fantasies - yet only few people have the courage to act on them. Is it something you should try, or is it better left as a fantasy?
In this episode, Will and Chiara explore the psychology behind group sex, the gap between fantasy and reality, and how to decide whether a threesome is right for you.
They go over the key conversations couples need to have before inviting a third person in, including the emotional impact, managing expectations, and how to navigate jealousy - often the biggest deal breaker.
They also explore how to test the waters with your partner - through dirty talk, fantasy role-play, or watching certain types of content together - to see if the idea is genuinely exciting or just intriguing in theory.
For those considering taking the next step, they share practical guidance on finding the right third, whether through dating apps, social circles, or more curated experiences like sex-positive events. They also explain the difference between FMF (two women, one man) and MFM (two men, one woman) threesomes, how to avoid common pitfalls, and why communication is essential at every stage.
Whether you're simply curious or seriously planning your adventure, this episode helps you explore your desires and possibility with clarity, awareness, compassion and respect for your relationship.
TIME STAMPS
00:00 Why is a threesome the most common fantasy?
03:29 Fantasy vs reality: why so many people regret it
04:09 Is your relationship ready for this?
07:21 Libido imbalances and why threesomes won’t fix them
09:19 How to start the conversation with your partner
11:25 Dirty talk as a way to explore the fantasy safely
17:24 What to expect emotionally before, during, and after
19:18 Finding a third: friends, strangers, or dating apps?
23:25 The risks of inviting someone from your social circle
26:00 Compersion: when watching your partner turns you on
30:42 FMF vs MFM: which is right for you?
33:00 Why many men find MFM threesomes easier
35:42 What women should know about MFM dynamics
37:45 Handling unexpected emotions in the moment
44:21 If you’re single, should you join a couple?
46:56 The biggest mistake couples make
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YOUR GOODIES:
>> Want more content about sexual fantasies?
Don’t miss our previous episode on Apple or Spotify: There’s No Shame In Dirty Fantasies: How Speaking Them Out Loud Can Transform Your Relationship
>> Book a free introductory call with us
>> FREE DOWNLOAD: “10 phrases to help you have deeper conversations with your partner”
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Send any questions here
==
Follow us on Instagram
About Deeper Lovers: www.deeperlovers.com
20 episodes
E19 Threesome fantasy? How to talk to your partner about it (and make it happen)
Deeper Sex - The podcast about deeper connections and adventure
Manage episode 473232292 series 3567422
Threesomes are one of the most common fantasies - yet only few people have the courage to act on them. Is it something you should try, or is it better left as a fantasy?
In this episode, Will and Chiara explore the psychology behind group sex, the gap between fantasy and reality, and how to decide whether a threesome is right for you.
They go over the key conversations couples need to have before inviting a third person in, including the emotional impact, managing expectations, and how to navigate jealousy - often the biggest deal breaker.
They also explore how to test the waters with your partner - through dirty talk, fantasy role-play, or watching certain types of content together - to see if the idea is genuinely exciting or just intriguing in theory.
For those considering taking the next step, they share practical guidance on finding the right third, whether through dating apps, social circles, or more curated experiences like sex-positive events. They also explain the difference between FMF (two women, one man) and MFM (two men, one woman) threesomes, how to avoid common pitfalls, and why communication is essential at every stage.
Whether you're simply curious or seriously planning your adventure, this episode helps you explore your desires and possibility with clarity, awareness, compassion and respect for your relationship.
TIME STAMPS
00:00 Why is a threesome the most common fantasy?
03:29 Fantasy vs reality: why so many people regret it
04:09 Is your relationship ready for this?
07:21 Libido imbalances and why threesomes won’t fix them
09:19 How to start the conversation with your partner
11:25 Dirty talk as a way to explore the fantasy safely
17:24 What to expect emotionally before, during, and after
19:18 Finding a third: friends, strangers, or dating apps?
23:25 The risks of inviting someone from your social circle
26:00 Compersion: when watching your partner turns you on
30:42 FMF vs MFM: which is right for you?
33:00 Why many men find MFM threesomes easier
35:42 What women should know about MFM dynamics
37:45 Handling unexpected emotions in the moment
44:21 If you’re single, should you join a couple?
46:56 The biggest mistake couples make
==
YOUR GOODIES:
>> Want more content about sexual fantasies?
Don’t miss our previous episode on Apple or Spotify: There’s No Shame In Dirty Fantasies: How Speaking Them Out Loud Can Transform Your Relationship
>> Book a free introductory call with us
>> FREE DOWNLOAD: “10 phrases to help you have deeper conversations with your partner”
==
Send any questions here
==
Follow us on Instagram
About Deeper Lovers: www.deeperlovers.com
20 episodes
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