In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving into something all of us face but nobody really wants to talk about - those seasons when it feels like you're in conflict with EVERYONE. You know those times? When it seems like every conversation is tense, every interaction is challenging, and you're starting to wonder if maybe you're t…

In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're taking a moment to celebrate YOU. Yes, you! We're shifting away from our usual conversations about red flags and relationship challenges to focus on something equally important - acknowledging just how far you've come in your healing journey. You know those moments when you catch a red flag ear…

In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're getting real about something that hits deep - what do you do when someone just stops showing up for you emotionally? You know that feeling when their energy shifts, the care fades, and you're left wondering what happened? After seeing so many TikTok conversations about love avoidance and no con…

In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we dive into the seven benefits of taking it slow in a relationship — the power of a 'slow burn.' I discuss the reasons behind why rushing into relationships can be problematic, especially for love addicts, and share practical tips on how to pace relationships effectively. I also explore how going sl…

In this episode, I review 3 hidden ways we may unknowingly ignore (and encourage) red flags in new people we meet. Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGH for a great deal: happymammoth.com * Check out Penguin Random House: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com * Check out Quince: https://quince.com/bgh * Check out Sunbasket: https…

In this episode, I talk about why I'm quitting and what's coming next for Black Girls Heal! Resources mentioned in the episode: Register for the BGH Lover Girl's Weekend Workshop on Saturday,, February 8, 2025 at blackgirlsheal.org/events Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to …

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we explore the importance of checking the facts when feeling threatened, especially for those healing from trauma. We discuss how trauma can heighten our threat response, making it difficult to discern real threats from perceived ones. The episode delves into the skill of 'checking the facts,' a concept derived …

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive into the poignant topic of rejection, inspired by heartfelt conversations from my recent cruise trip. Focusing on love addiction, I discuss the fear of abandonment and the insecurities it breeds. Together, we explore how to cope with rejection, understand its impact, and reclaim our power. You'll learn a…

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive into a major milestone — our very first video podcast episode! After years of audio-only recordings, I am showing up in video to connect with you more intimately. I start with a heartfelt check-in, sharing my personal experiences of transitions and the collective 'hell' many of us have gone through recen…

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, I delve into the intricacies of implementing a no-contact process while co-parenting. This much-requested topic focuses on maintaining emotional neutrality and setting firm boundaries when you have to communicate with a co-parent for the sake of your children. I’ll share practical steps and tips designed to help…

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we're diving into the world of love avoidance and how to navigate new relationships when you're healing from it. We'll talk about understanding intimacy disorders, recovering from those avoidant patterns, and how to communicate your needs in a healthy way. Whether you're just starting in your recovery, you're in…

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive into the intricacies of managing romantic relationships for those in recovery from love addiction. We discuss the importance of staying in touch with your body, practicing self-affirmation, and maintaining your own life and identity. These actionable tips are geared to help you stay balanced while develo…

You know that feeling when things don't go as planned and you're left feeling disappointed? Yeah, we've all been there. This week on the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving deep into how to manage unrealistic expectations and fantasies in your relationships so you can avoid those heartbreaks. We're going to break down how to set realistic standa…

In this episode of the Black Girls Heal, we’re going to be talking about something really deep today: how what happened to us as kids can mess with our love lives BIG TIME. We're diving into childhood emotional neglect and how it can lead to those addictive relationships we sometimes find ourselves in. It's wild how many of us deal with the fallout…

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, I dive deep into the lessons I've learned over my 10 years of recovery from love addiction. This journey has been incredibly personal and transformative. Many of you have watched and supported me through it all—clients, friends, and those who know me through this podcast. I reflect on the challenges, the growth,…

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive deep into financial codependency—a pattern where you feel obligated to support others financially, even to your own detriment. We explore its roots, how it manifests in various relationships, and the emotional toll it takes. You'll learn about practical steps to break free from this cycle, including a 90…

In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, I talk about the power of "no contact" as a tool to finally break free from toxic relationships. You know how it goes – you finally decide to walk away, but somehow, you end up back in contact with that person who just brings you down. It's frustrating, right? Well, here's the thing: most setbacks in…

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we revisit the topic of 'No Contact' and the seven-day 'Don't Text Them: Sit on Your Effing Hands Challenge.' This discussion is aimed at those caught in addictive or trauma-bonded relationships, whether romantic, familial, or friendships. We discuss topics like recognizing toxic relationships, the importance of…

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In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we discuss the challenging yet liberating process of surrender and letting go. We explore themes such as grieving, setting boundaries, and focusing on self-love, supported by a poignant poem 'Just Let Them' by Cassie Phillips. We also go into the three key takeaways: realizing you can't control others, being ope…

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we discuss the crucial topic of feeling deserving and why it's essential for receiving the love you desire. We explore how internalizing negative beliefs and trauma can lead to feeling undeserving, even when we outwardly affirm our worth. You'll learn practical steps to identify the emotional 'weeds' that choke …

In today’s episode, we get into the topic of the fear of being seen, exploring the underlying trauma that leads to avoidance behaviors and vulnerability in relationships. We discuss the common thoughts, actions, and patterns that arise when individuals struggle with feeling exposed and unworthy. Additionally, we address the impact of childhood trau…

In this episode, I discuss the importance of moving from negative relationship patterns to positive, healed, and love-filled connections. I also talk about the common pitfalls of remaining in negative relational spaces, the impacts of childhood emotional neglect, and the signs of low self-worth. You’ll get to know what it means to reach a baseline …

In this episode, let’s discuss the importance of recognizing and celebrating personal growth. Reflecting on past conversations with coaching students, I explore three key signs that show how much you've evolved: pausing before reacting even when hurt, becoming open to alternative viewpoints, and feeling and validating your emotions. Alongside these…

In this episode, I go over the 4 seasons of healing everyone will go through when healing from unresolved trauma and relationship issues. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, …

In this episode, I review the first 3 steps to heal from love avoidance and the issues that get in the way. Click here to download the free roadmap Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a…

In this episode, I talk about 4 examples of emotional abuse that may set us up to be vulnerable to love addicted and love avoidant relationships. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a p…

As a love addict, it can be easy to slip into pushing away the love we want by holding on a little bit too tightly. In this episode, I review 3 ways that love addicts accidentally sabotage their relationships. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you be…

This episode for anyone who is experiencing or has experienced a friendship breakup that has been hard to recover from. I hope these 7 tips help you move forward and find friendships that help you feel fulfilled and whole. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program t…

If you've gone through heartbreak and are feeling jaded or "over" love, in this episode I go over 3 ways for you to work through your jadedness to give love a chance again when you're ready. Click here to join the free masterclass Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching p…

Every person healing from love addiction goes from 5 stages of feeling stuck and confused to Healed and Loved. In this episode, I review each of these stages, their roadblocks and what one can expect at each stage. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help y…

In this episode, I review a typically undetectable way that some narcissists love bomb to help those who may be susceptible to this style of seduction be more aware. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulf…

In this episode, Shena talk about why some of us may settle in relationships when we feel they are giving us what we are looking for in spite of warning and danger signs. Join us as our upcoming workshop: Mastering the No Contact Process & Letting Go Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my …

I have had to put a lot of measures in place to continue to grow and thrive as a neurodivergent person and use it as my superpower. Per listener request, in this episode, I review the top 15 things I do to help me stay on track with my Adult ADHD. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my sig…

Hi all! I'm taking a mini break! I'll see y'all in the next episode! Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the up…

In this episode, Shena goes over 3 questions recovering love addicts can ask themselves if they are wanting to stay friends with an ex? Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, fr…

In this episode, I continue teaching about money trauma and it's intersection into love addiction and love avoidance cycles. Today's episode focuses on Money Hoarding, Compuslive Spending, Workaholism, Financial (Co)dependency & Enabling, and Financial Infidelity. Click here to register for the Heal Your Money Trauma Workshop Ready to heal your Lov…

In this episode, Shena talks about money trauma and how it may manifest as underearning - a process that has nothing to do with the amount of money you make but if you are hiding, self sabotaging, or prioritizing others' needs over your own. Click here to register for the Heal Your Money Trauma Workshop Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoi…

In this episode, Dr. Piper Grant breaks down for us the concept of Mother Hunger and its impact on our lives along with discussing the 3 pillars of motherhood: Nurturance, Guidance, and Protection. CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST Instagram: @dr.pipergrant Website: Numiwellness.com Click here to register for the Cutting Wounds with Your Mother Wounds Click h…

In this episode, I talk about managing disappointment from your relationship with your mother as an adult if you have experienced false starts towards intimacy or seen self sabotage on your mother's part. Click here to register for the Cutting Wounds with Your Mother Wounds Click here to see an overview of all Winter Workshops Ready to heal your Lo…

In this episode, Shena talks about 3 ways to know that you have a problem as a love addict abd losing yourself versus being a balance and available partner. Apply for the Valentine's Day Scholarship for The Recovery School Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program t…

In this episode, Shena discusses how to cope when you have a mother who is competitive with you, the signs of the jealousy and competition, and potential sources of where it may come from. Click here to register for the Cutting Ties with Mother Wounds Workshop Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery S…

In this episode, Shena discusses healing from codependency to improve your self love and the questions you need to ask yourself to adjust your boundaries. Click here to register for the Building a Self Romance Workshop Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to he…

In this episode, Shena talks about what is negging, how it shows up in relationships and affects our self esteem, why we normalize it, and what to do to change this pattern. Register for the Building Self Love & Feel Fulled Workshop Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching…

In this episode, Shena reviews the differences between being non-attached to others opinions and outcomes versus being avoidant, how this contributes to our self esteem and the trauma that gets in the way of moving in this direction. Get the 2024 Winter Guide Register for the Building Self Love & Feel Fulled Workshop Ready to heal your Love Addicti…

In today's episode, Shena lays out a Winter series to work through our relationship with ourselves, our mothers, our money, and the men & romantic relationships in our lives. Download the free guide at blackgirlsheal.org/2024 Register for the trauma healing workshops at blackgirlsheal.org/2024 Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Cli…

Someone people hang onto people that they shouldn't so they can "practice" their communication and boundary skills on them. In this episode, we're talking about why you shouldn't do that. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, lo…

In this episode, I talk about 4 tasks I would work with my therapy clients to help heal from love addiction. In this episode, I talk about why these tasks are important for one's growth and healing and moving towards change. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program…

In this episode, we're joined by Dating Coach Anwar White to talk about all things online dating, living in your boundaries, leading with vulnerability, interracial dating, and more. CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Website: GetYourGuyCoaching.com IG: @getyourguy_coaching Tiktok: @datingcoachanwar Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click he…

In this episode, I check in and share about my current experience with ADHD, a life update, birthday celebrations, and affirmations I encourage you to focus on going into the New Year. Join the BGH Members Club at blackgirlsheal.org/club Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGH for a great deal: happymammoth.com * Check out Pengu…