Welcome to “Let’s Talk Attachments”, a podcast all about ATTACHMENT THEORY! My name is Jessica Da Silva and I’m a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist & Attachment Coach helping you transform the way you experience love by teaching you the ins and outs of your attachment style in a practical and relatable way. Website: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/ Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Email: hello@jessicadasilvacoaching.com
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Getting Attached to Things Outside of Our Relationships (Personal Share)
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I had a revelation recently with a big life change. I noticed similar insecure ways of thinking and feeling surface that resembled how I used to feel in unhealthy relationship dynamics. The goal with this episode is to help you reflect on how you may be "insecurely attaching" to things outside of your relationships, such as your home, belongings, i…
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Redefining Your Perspective on Needs With Chris Rackliffe
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Today on the podcast we have Chris Rackliffe, also known as @crackliffe. He is a trauma healer, mental health advocate, anxious attachment style coach, and author of the new self-help book, Needy No More: The Journey From Anxious to Secure Attachment—available exclusively on Amazon beginning November 19, 2024. Chris has worked with countless client…
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Somatic Experiencing for Healing Attachment Wounds With Lisa May Francisco
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Today on the podcast we have Lisa May Francisco who is a first-generation Filipino women’s empowerment coach, Kundalini yoga teacher, EFT practitioner, and host of the Sacred Femme Alchemy podcast. She leads women to bust through their emotional blocks, reclaim unshakable self-worth, and unleash their wild, authentic selves through potent spiritual…
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Identifying Subtle Signs of Dismissiveness in Your Partner and It’s Impact on Your Well-Being
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In this episode, I discuss identifying subtle forms of dismissiveness in a partner and its impact on our well-being from a personal and general perspective. It's easy to overlook milder forms of rejection, especially if we consider our loved ones "good people." But if we don't become aware of these troubling mild behaviors, they can perpetuate our …
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How to Connect to Your Authentic (Secure) Self With Rebecca Haddock (Client Stories)
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Today on the podcast, we have a special guest: Rebecca Haddock. She is a badass businesswoman, scientist, inventor, and president of her company, Equitape. Rebecca is also a former client of mine who originally came to me seeking support in breaking her unhealthy attachment patterns, specifically tendencies associated with avoidant attachment. In t…
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How Our Attachment Styles Affect Our Break-Ups With Lucy Price
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On this podcast the podcast we have Lucy Price. Lucy is a breakup and relationship coach who helps individuals heal from heartbreak, get over their exes, and create fulfilling lives. Lucy specializes in guiding clients through the emotional challenges of breakups, teaching self-love, and helping them rebuild confidence and clarity for the future. W…
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An Inside Look into the Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Mind With Licensed Therapist Patch McCormick
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Today on the podcast, we have Patch McCormick, a former ad man turned relationship therapist for men, couples, and groups. Individually, he helps men earn secure attachment with a combination of IFS, EMDR, CBT, and various somatic tools. He's incredibly passionate about teaching assertiveness and how to build confidence. Patch was bold enough to ag…
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Recovering From Heartbreak - 8 Month Update (Through a Secure Lens)
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I wanted to share an update on my break-up recovery process, as I know many of you have found comfort in hearing about my experience, understanding you're not alone and finding ways to navigate the challenges through a secure approach. In this episode I share: -How I've been feeling after 8 months post break-up. -How I've been navigating the 5 stag…
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Learn why you may attach quickly and intensely to people in the early stages of dating, as well as how to take more of a detached approach to lessen the anxiety and stress you experience when others aren't consistent or pull away. MY SECURE SELF GROUP COACHING PROGRAM (3 MONTHS) 1:1 ATTACHMENT COACHING (10 WEEKS) Contact Me: hello@jessicadasilvacoa…
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A Males Perspective on Having an Anxious Attachment Style With Jason Berry
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Today on the podcast, we have Jason Berry. He is a podcaster, entrepreneur, and amateur Hyrax athlete. A few months ago, I was a guest speaker on his podcast @awakenoutofcontext, where we discussed attachment styles. I loved his vulnerability and personal insights so much that I invited him onto my podcast to talk more about his experience with hav…
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The Attachment Styles and Taking Things Personally
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If you have an anxious, dismissive avoidant, or fearful avoidant attachment style, it’s most likely you are self-conscious and therefore take things personally. This can be problematic as we can distort the reality of a situation and therefore engage in self-sabotaging behaviors.In this episode, I share how each insecure attachment style takes thin…
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How the Attachment Styles Experience Being Single
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In this weeks podcast episode I talk about how anxious, dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant and secure attachments experience single-hood and ways to navigate these often challenging phases with more ease.——1:1 Attachment Coaching - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
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Recovering From Heartbreak (Through a Secure Lens)
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In this episode, I share my personal experience of recovering from my recent breakup of almost 7 years (from a secure approach). Is the grass greener on the other side? Tune in to learn more :) _____ 1-1 Attachment Coaching With Me: https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2
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How to Communicate With Someone Who Has Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style
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Communication is important because it meets fundamental emotional needs that are at the root of our challenges. In this episode, you will learn helpful tips on how to communicate with someone who has a fearful avoidant attachment style.——— 1-1 Attachment Coaching: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
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How to Communicate With Someone Who Has a Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style
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Communication is important because it meets fundamental emotional needs that are at the root of our challenges. In this episode, you will learn what these emotional needs are for the dismissive avoidant attachment style, how to address them, and helpful tips for effective communication.———1-1 Attachment Coaching: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com…
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How to Communicate With Someone Who Has an Anxious Attachment Style
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Communication is important because it meets fundamental emotional needs that are at the root of our challenges. In this episode, you will learn what these emotional needs are, how to address them with those you love, and helpful tips on how to communicate effectively to create emotional intimacy.———Attachment Coaching (for individual’s and couples)…
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Four Steps to Connect to Your “Secure Self”
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In this week's podcast episode, I share four practical ways to connect to your “secure self” so that you can make decisions from a place of authenticity versus insecurity.——Attachment Coaching - Let’s work together - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
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To Stay or Break-up? Leaving My Relationship of Six Years (Personal Share)
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Many of you know I was in a relationship for over six years. Though it was a beautiful relationship and healthy in many ways, some major core differences and incompatibilities made it challenging. In this episode, I share the struggle with navigating fear versus truth in our decisions and the importance of trusting yourself.———1:1 Attachment Coachi…
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Overcoming Relationship Jealousy With Shanenn Bryant
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Today on the podcast, we have Shanenn Bryant, a relationship confidence expert, and the host of the Top Self podcast. Shanenn has inspired thousands to break up with bogus beliefs, crack the control code, and overhaul their insecure habits. We talk about:-How jealousy can manifest in your relationships.-How to change your relationship to jealousy.-…
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Trauma Recovery for Attachment Styles With Rowan Garlow
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Today on the podcast, we have Rowan Garlow, a trauma recovery practitioner who utilizes Voice Dialogue, Somatic Experiencing, Inner Child, and Soul Retrieval for healing and integrating unresolved trauma.We talk about:-What is trauma recovery work?-What attachment trauma looks like specifically.-How trauma manifests in our behaviors.-Why your “over…
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In this episode, I talk about why each attachment style tolerates difficult or painful relationships, why we aren’t stuck to these ways of experiencing love, and tips on how to move beyond our limitations.——Find me here:1:1 Attachment Coaching - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.comInstagram - @thejessicadasilva…
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Simplifying the Four Attachment Styles with Dr. Anita Knight Kuhnley
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Dr. Anita Kuhnley is an author, esteemed scholar, expert counselor, and speaker who just released a book called “The Four Relationship Styles: How Attachment Theory Can Help in Your Search for Lasting Love.” We talk about: -The breakdown of each relationship style (aka attachment style).-Strengths and challenges of each attachment style.-How knowin…
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Healthy vs. Unhealthy Compromise Within Relationships with Imani Tutt
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Imani Tutt, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Intuitive Coach talks about relationship compromise, why it’s normal, and healthy versus unhealthy compromising.——-Find Imani here:https://imaniintouch.comInstagram: @imani.intouch——-Find Jessica here:www.jessicadasilvacoaching.comInstagram: @thejessicadasilva…
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Difference Between Relationship Anxiety and Relationship OCD with Dr. Holly Batchelder
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In this week’s podcast episode, Dr. Holly Batchelder, a Seattle-based licensed clinical psychologist, shares her expertise on relationship anxiety and OCD, their major differences, how they manifest in our lives, and how to treat it to experience a fulfilling life.You can find Dr. Holly here:instagram: holly.phdwebiste: www.hollyphd.compodcast: twi…
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Difference Between Needs and Expectations
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In this week's podcast episode, I talk about the difference between needs and expectations. Understanding this distinction can alleviate anxiety and create more fulfilling relationships.—————1:1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2My Secure Self E-Course - https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-…
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In this week's podcast episode, I address the fear many of us hold about why we attract toxic people and the real (transformative) questions we need to be asking ourselves instead.—————1:1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2My Secure Self E-Course - https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course…
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How Alcoholic Parent(s) Influence the Development of Our Attachment Style
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PODCASTIn this week's podcast episode, I share how having alcoholic parents (one or both) can influence the development of anxious, dismissive avoidant or fearful avoidant attachment style, as well as steps you can take to shift these patterns and learned identity.—————1:1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2…
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How I Navigate the Distance in My Relationship (Anxious - Avoidant Dynamic)
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In this week's podcast episode, I share my personal experience with navigating the distance in my relationship, as we tend to spend long periods apart due to the nature of his work. I also talk about the challenges of anxious-avoidant dynamics and how we make it work.—————1:1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-m…
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How To Navigate Relationship Ambivalence (Aka, Confusion and Indecision)
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Relationship ambivalence (aka, confusion or indecision) is very common for those of us who have an anxious, dismissive avoidant, or fearful avoidant attachment style. In this episode, I help you understand your ambivalence and give you steps to take on how to navigate these complexities with more clarity.…
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Putting Myself First with Alicia (Client Stories)
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Today on the podcast we have a special guest. Alicia is a former attachment coaching client of mine sharing her experience with having an anxious attachment style, learning to let go of control, prioritizing herself and her needs, healing from heartache and abandonment trauma, and understanding how her attachment style impacts so many significant a…
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How to Measure Your Progress in Developing a Secure Attachment Style
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Dismantle misconceptions about developing a secure attachment style and learn how to measure your progress accurately.———Coach with me: jessicadasilvacoaching.com
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How Each Attachment Style Experiences 5 Stages of a Relationship
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Learn about how each attachment style moves through the 5 relationship stages. This episode focuses highly on the insecure attachment styles (anxious, dismissive avoidant and fearful avoidant).———Coach with me: jessicadasilvacoaching.com
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Normalizing “The Icks” in Dating and Relationships with Kelsey Wonderlin
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Today on the podcast, we have Kelsey Wonderlin. Kelsey is a licensed therapist and a dating and relationship coach. She helps women who struggle with anxiety attract & HOLD ONTO a healthy relationship. She is also passionate about debunking the myths many of us have been taught about what a healthy relationship looks like.In this episode, we dive d…
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Navigating a Break-Up As Someone With an Anxious Attachment Style with Alexa (Client Stories)
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Today we have a special guest, Alexa. She is a mother, a humanitarian, a leader, a former client of mine, and just a beautiful soul who was willing to come onto the podcast and share her story of navigating love with an anxious attachment style, how understanding attachment theory brought so much clarity to her marriage, the challenges that come wi…
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Can We Change Our Attachment Style? (The Honest Truth)
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In this episode, I share what research says about whether we can actually change our attachment style.———Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
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Realities for Insecure Attachers in Relationships
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In this episode, I share some hard truths about how insecure attachments (anxious, dismissive-avoidant, and fearful-avoidant variations) experience relationships in hopes of cultivating more self-acceptance and realistic expectations for themselves and others.———Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com…
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Normalizing Insecurities and Relationship Anxiety
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In this episode, I share my experience with relationship anxiety in hopes of normalizing the ebbs and flows that naturally occur in relationships, especially those with insecure attachments.———Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
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Why Anxious and Avoidant Attachment Attract Each Other
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In this episode, I share why anxious and avoidant attachments are attracted to each other from an attachment lens, and how they can work towards creating a secure bond.These tips apply for all attachment style dynamics.———Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/
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How Understanding Attachment Styles Can Help Your Relationships
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In this episode, I share how understanding attachment styles can help your relationships in a multitude of ways. This includes relationships with partner, friends, family, and colleagues.———Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/
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In this episode, I share some major differences between coaching and therapy, in order to help you identify which approach is best for you. I also share why I transitioned from working as a Mental Health Therapist to an Attachment Coach.———Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/…
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Set Boundaries & Reclaim Your Power with Arnie (Client Stories)
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What you'll learn…* The challenges of co-parenting and how to navigate it in a secure way* The importance of setting boundaries to reclaim your power* How to identify red flags in a relationship* Overcoming toxic relationships* Dating as a single mom———1:1 Attachment Coaching - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com…
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How Attachment Styles May Self-Sabotage Dating & Relationships
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What you'll learn…* Defining relationship self-sabotage.* How each attachment style (including secure attachments) may sabotage dating and relationships.* Why they behave in these unhealthy ways.* How to stop pushing those you love away.———1:1 Attachment Coaching - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
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Unhealthy Vs. Healthy Ways Attachment Styles Communicate Needs
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What you’ll learn in this episode:-Why we have difficulty communicating our needs.-The consequences of not communicating our needs directly.-How each attachment style communicates their needs.-Healthier ways of communicating your needs to create relationship satisfaction.———— 1:1 Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me…
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How Each Attachment Style Parents Their Children
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What you’ll learn in this episode:-How each attachment style parents their children.-How to form secure bonds with your children.-Why you shouldn’t feel bad about your parenting style.-Why it’s important to break these generational patterns.———— 1:1 Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/ My Secure Self E-Course: ht…
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Navigating Relationship Anxiety For Fearful Avoidant Attachment with Bouket (Client Stories)
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In this episode, former client, Bouket, shares her experience navigating her fearful avoidant attachment style. We touch on relationship anxiety, intuition vs. fear, finding secure love, managing triggers, balancing the masculine/feminine, and so much more.————1:1 Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/My Secure Sel…
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In this episode, I share how common it is for our relationship needs to change, how that impacts our life, how to identify what those needs are, and how to navigate those insecurities in a healthy way.1:1 Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-se…
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Saving My Relationship Through Saving Myself (A personal share on meeting my needs)
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Why did I move away from my fiancé after getting engaged? In this episode, I share my personal experience with saving my relationship through saving myself. Also, how to know the difference between self-sacrifice versus self-neglect.______My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course—— 10% discount code: MEETM…
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Anxious Attachments & Long Distance Relationships with Zahirah Evitt
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Free 5-Day Series Attachment Style Guide: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.lpages.co/attachement-guide/ My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasi…
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Free 5-Day Series Attachment Style Guide: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.lpages.co/attachement-guide/My Secure Self E-Course:https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-courseFind me at:Instagram: @thejessicadasilvaTiktok: @jessicadasilvacoachingCoach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.comFree Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoac…
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Honoring Your Anxious Attachment Style and Creating More Security with Chris Rackliffe
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Today's guest is Chris Rackliffe. Chris is an author and Anxious Attachment Coach who shares his personal story, wisdom, and tips to guiding anxious attachers into more joy and fulfillment.Book: It’s Good To See Me Again Tiktok: @crackliffeInstagram: @crackliffe-------------My Secure Self E-Course:https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-…
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