Become a Calm Mama is a parenting podcast where you learn practical parenting tools and strategies so you can stop yelling, feel more calm, and show up as the mom you want to be. Darlynn is the top parenting coach for moms who want to know exactly how to handle misbehavior and create a peaceful home. Darlynn is known for her practical strategies and a down to earth understanding of what it’s really like to be a mom raising kids in the 21st century. Over the past 15 years, Darlynn has dedicat ...
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As we approach Valentine's Day and my upcoming series on radical self-love, you are getting a love letter from two life coaches that I recently recorded on accident. What you’ll hear today is a conversation between me and my coach and friend, Kristin Lafontaine, as we talked about what it means to heal yourself from pain, how to regulate your emoti…
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In last week’s episode, I talked about how to forgive yourself when you yell, shame, hurt, or otherwise show up in a way you don’t love as a parent. Today, we’re talking about what comes next - saying “I’m sorry” and having a repair conversation with your child. You’ll Learn: Why saying “I’m sorry” is so important (and why it’s only one piece of re…
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A shopping ban?? What!? Yep, this year I'm committed to buying only essentials and not buying stuff online. I'm especially avoiding Amazon! On this episode of Confessions, Danielle Walsmith dive deep into the REASON I'm doing this and all the 'rules' I've created for the shopping ban.By Darlynn Childress
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Darlynn shares the story of a big ol' fight she had with Kevin on Thanksgiving. Who knew how bad things could get just by asking "What do you want for thanksgiving dinner?"By Darlynn Childress
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I'm the host of the Become a Calm Mama podcast, which is a podcast that is all about parenting and mama mindset and how to get calm and how to get your kids to listen and how to stop feeling like a piece of crap parent. I love that podcast! And I'm going to keep teaching you how to parent and show up as the mom that you want to be week after week. …
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None of us is perfect. Not your kids, and not you. We all mess up, lose our cool and act in ways we aren’t proud of. It’s normal to feel guilty after you blow up on your kid, but there is a path back to connection. It starts with learning how to forgive yourself. You’ll Learn: What to do after you lose it on your kid. The difference between guilt, …
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Practicing Attunement to Create Emotional Health
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35:32If you feel worried about messing up your kid, today’s episode is for you. I’m teaching you how practicing attunement will help you build a more connected relationship with your child and create emotional health within them. You’ll Learn: What attunement is and why it’s important for emotional health 2 simple steps to practice attunement Examples o…
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The recent fires in Los Angeles (not far from where I live) have me thinking a lot about resilience. As I hear more and more stories of families who are displaced, who have lost their homes, I’m overwhelmed by thoughts of the resilience that these individuals, families, and communities will need in order to recover. You’ll Learn: What resilience is…
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How To Decide About Sports & Extracurriculars
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39:07There are so many options out there for sports and extracurriculars for kids…and so many questions that come with them. Should you have your kids play sports? When? Should you make them stick with something they hate? The list goes on and on. You’ll Learn: How to create more opportunities for free play (including windows of screen-free time) The di…
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If you’re setting goals or resolutions for 2025, this episode is for you! This year, I was asked a question that stopped me in my tracks and shifted my entire approach to goal setting. The end result was goals that made me feel joyful instead of shitty. Now, I’m sharing that question with you. You’ll Learn: My theme for the year Why thinking you ne…
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Many people believe that thinking about regrets is a waste of time or unimportant. But I think it can actually be informative and instructive. Today, I’m sharing some of my parenting regrets as I look back on the decisions I made when my kids were younger. I want to show you how you can use regret in a positive, supportive way. You’ll Learn: Why re…
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Winter break can be hard for us and our kids. What often happens is we sort of just start going into the holiday season and winter break without a plan or being prepared. You’ll Learn: How to get through winter break without feeling exhausted and sick by the end Ways to support your kids and decrease meltdowns What to do when your kid is disappoint…
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Giving Allowance to Teach Financial Literacy
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26:44Recently, I’ve coached a few different moms about allowance and chores. These concepts often go together, but I think about them as two separate pieces. Today, I’ll teach you how to use giving allowance to teach financial literacy to your kids. You’ll Learn: Why I don’t believe you should pay your kid to do chores Financial lessons all kids should …
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Giving Your Kid Their First Phone with Kristi Bush
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52:53Parents often ask me about how to approach giving their kid a phone for the first time. Today on the podcast, I’m joined by Kristi Bush, founder of Protect Our Kids. We’re talking about strategies to use before you give them the phone, as well as tools for monitoring their use. You’ll Learn: Examples of kids accessing internet content that they sho…
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Today is Thanksgiving in the U.S., so I’m sharing a simple gratitude practice that you can do as a family, along with a guided gratitude meditation. What you focus on is what you create more of. When you focus on things that bring you joy and delight, you’re going to feel better and more positive about your life. You’ll Learn: Why your kid isn’t wr…
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Cultivating Contentment with Brenda Yoder
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40:11If you’ve ever wished you could make life less complicated, you’re going to love my guest on today’s podcast. Brenda Yoder is here with me talking about contentment - what it is, how to cultivate it and what is keeping you from feeling satisfied with your life. You’ll Learn: Why there is more discontent in our current society that in past generatio…
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Using Cognitive Behavioral Therapy in Parenting
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31:36Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is one of the most effective therapeutic models to help people move through negative emotion and create long term change in the way they think, feel and behave in their lives. Today, I’m showing you how you can use the powerful concepts behind Cognitive Behavioral Therapy in parenting. You’ll Learn: Why Cognitive …
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Accidental Neglect: Strategies for Better Phone Etiquette Around Kids
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24:45The term “accidental neglect” might sound a little harsh, but it also describes what your child experiences when you’re on your phone. You might be disconnecting from your kid without realizing it. Today, I’m talking all about what your child sees and feels when you are on your device and strategies for better phone etiquette around kids. You’ll Le…
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The Art Of Thriving Online with Amelia Knott
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53:11Today on the podcast, registered psychotherapist, art therapist and author Amelia Knott is helping us discover the art of thriving online and sharing ways to reconnect with yourself, your thoughts and your sense of wellbeing. You’ll Learn: Common challenges that result from the online space and being constantly connected How to reconcile the good a…
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Get Your Brain To Do More And Rest Better
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33:56Just like the rest of the body, your brain needs times of attention, focus and activity as well as times of rest. Today, I’m talking about two different networks within the brain and how to toggle between them. It will help you understand how to get your brain to do more and rest better so you can feel more focused and less overwhelmed. You’ll Lear…
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In this episode I'm talking about what I call the screentime dilemma - basically the overwhelm and frustration you feel around figuring out screens. I’m helping you understand why it feels so hard and why it actually falls outside of your wheelhouse as a parent. You’ll Learn: Why figuring out screentime is so confusing How screentime is following i…
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One of my kids has pretty severe ADHD. When he was younger, it showed up a lot in the form of hyperactivity and impulse control. The challenges have evolved as he’s gotten older. Today, I’m talking about my experience of parenting a kid with ADHD and sharing what I’ve learned along the way. You’ll Learn: Why ADHD is about way more than behaviors Wh…
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A manifesto is a list of principles to help guide you how you want to live each day. Maybe you’ve made one before and didn’t even realize it. Today I’m sharing my parenting manifesto and showing you how to create one of your own. You’ll Learn: What a manifesto is and why it is so helpful in parenting The commitments behind my parenting manifesto Wh…
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Navigating A Teen Mental Health Crisis with Tracey Yokas
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1:05:27Today on the podcast, I am interviewing Tracey Yokas, the author of Bloodlines: A Memoir of Harm and Healing. She is here to share her experience of navigating a teen mental health crisis with her own daughter, including the struggles and what she learned through the process that helped them both cope and heal. You’ll Learn: The true cause of eatin…
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Neurobehavioral Conditions with Eileen Devine
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47:54Today on Become A Calm Mama, you get double the parent coaches! My guest, Eileen Devine, specializes in supporting parents who are raising kids with neurobehavioral conditions. Signs that your child might be struggling with a neurobehavioral condition Common challenges for kids with neurobehavioral conditions and their parents Eileen’s favorite man…
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Recently, the U.S. Surgeon General issued an advisory saying that parents aren’t ok. There’s a lot that goes into raising emotionally healthy kids, and a huge part of it is your own mental health, including how you handle stress and negative emotions. In today’s episode, I’m breaking down this 36-page advisory and sharing some of the highlights (or…
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Today I’m talking about Venmo moms, volunteer moms and everything in between. If you haven’t heard of a “Venmo mom”, it’s a term that’s been going around on TikTok and Instagram lately. Essentially, a Venmo mom is someone who isn't really interested in being a hands-on volunteer with their kid’s school, team, etc. They wanna just send some money to…
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I’ve just dropped off my youngest son at college. And rather than focus on my home being an empty nest, I like to think of it as my roomier nest. You’ll Learn: How to find the wisdom in procrastination The different ways feelings show up in our bodies and minds My take on an empty nest What I want out of this next stage I hope that by sharing my st…
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Over the course of my experience being a mom and coaching hundreds of other moms, I’ve noticed 3 distinct stages of motherhood. No matter what stage you’re in right now, I want you to feel seen and understand more about why you feel the way you feel. In this episode, I’ll explain these stages and give practical advice for surviving the 3 stages of …
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It’s that time of year, so I’m back with an encore episode sharing my top 5 back to school tips. In this episode, you’ll find strategies (and a few reality checks) for a smooth transition into the new school year. You’ll Learn: 5 challenges that often arise as school starts - and how to handle them Thoughts to help you (and your kids) through the b…
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It can feel really hard when your kid is unhappy or uncomfortable. It’s easy to blame yourself and feel like you should have done something differently. But your kid’s happiness isn’t your job. In this episode, I’ll explain what I mean by that and how you can help your child process their emotions without trying to solve all their problems for them…
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If you’ve ever thought, “But my kid only listens when I yell,” this is for you. Today, I’m explaining why threats aren’t great when you’re trying to change behavior and what to do instead. You’ll Learn: Why threats might work short-term but aren’t great in the long run The difference between threats and limits How to set limits that work What to do…
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Moms often start the summer feeling energized, encouraged and ready to go! Then around week 6 or 7, the kids are fighting, they never seem happy and everything sucks. This is your late summer pep talk to help you get out of that funk and get through the rest of summer. If you're having a great summer, I love that for you. But if you're struggling, …
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Today, I’m talking about how to do a digital detox, why you should consider trying it and the benefits to your kids. Plus, I’ll give you tips and some ideas of what your kids can do when they aren't on screens. You’ll Learn: What a digital detox is and why you might do one How to know if now is the right time for a detox Ways a digital detox can be…
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Cultivating a screen free mindset is the first step to helping your kids develop a healthy relationship with technology. Today, you’ll learn what it means to have a screen free mindset (it doesn’t mean no screens ever!) and how to get started setting new limits with your family. You’ll learn: The problems with too much screen time Screen time best …
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During the summer, kids have the opportunity for more leisure time, free play and creativity. But as a parent, you might not like the way your kid acts when they’re bored. In this episode, you’ll learn why encouraging boredom is a good thing and how you can feel more at peace when your kids are bored, dysregulated and frustrated this summer. You’ll…
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We know that play is fun, but there is so much more to it than that. Today, I’m talking about the importance of play-based childhoods, why our society has moved away from them and some strategies to bring play back into your family and create a play-based childhood for your kid. You’ll Learn: The importance of play for our kids Why play is a challe…
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Who better to talk about strategies for grandparents, than one of the best grandparents I know? I’m so excited to have my mother-in-law, Judie Childress, on the podcast with me today talking all about how parenting has changed over the years and what happens when the worlds of parenting and grandparenting collide. You’ll Learn: How my mother-in-law…
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If you’re anything like me, you sometimes find yourself feeling grumpy, discontent or dissatisfied. And you’d rather be feeling joy, hope, trust or safety. Today, I’m sharing my step-by-step process for how to shift any mood. You’ll Learn: My step-by-step process to shift any mood Why we tend to slip into negative moods How your thoughts help creat…
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Summer Break can somehow be both easier and more stressful for parents. Create a rhythm and make sure your kid’s (and your) needs are met with these 7 family essentials this summer. You’ll Learn: The 7 essential ingredients every family needs to thrive Why boredom is super important and how to deal with it How to troubleshoot when your kid is compl…
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Inspired by the Netflix documentary “Stutz”, these 3 unavoidable aspects of parenting are actually unavoidable aspects of life. They’re universal truths that we all have to deal with as humans. You’ll Learn: The 3 unavoidable aspects of parenting (and life) The lies we tell ourselves that keep us doing more, more, more How to cope with pain, uncert…
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There are 4 primary parenting styles out there, but they aren’t all completely separate from each other. Like so many other things, they exist on a spectrum. You might fall into different parenting styles in different stages or situations. You’ll Learn: The 4 main parenting styles, and how to recognize when you are using each one The benefits of au…
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I’m a little fired up on this one, so get ready! Over the past couple of weeks, I’ve read a few different headlines that have gotten me really mad, because these articles want to blame parents for pretty much every societal problem. I want to let you know that you don't have to pay attention to these kinds of headlines and articles that want to bla…
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Mother’s Day is coming. And if you've had a few Mother's Days that end with you getting into bed feeling totally wiped out and resentful, this podcast episode is for you. I’m talking all about how to create your best Mother’s Day plan for a day you actually enjoy! You’ll Learn: Why Mother’s Day can be so hard Steps for creating your best Mother’s D…
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Today, we’re focusing on being on the same page as your coparent with limits and consequences. You’ll Learn: Why learning to regulate your emotions is like learning to read and write 3 coparenting scenarios and how to navigate them What to do when you’re not on board with your coparent’s limits & consequences The good news about your relationship w…
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I’m often asked, “How do you handle it when your husband or your coparent isn't on board?” or, “How do you handle it when you're divorced and you don't know what's going on with the other parent?” In this first episode of a two-part series, I’ll start answering these questions and share some essential conversations to have with your coparent. You’l…
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We all know that parenting is enough of a challenge on its own, but what about when you’re coparenting with an abusive ex, someone who may be acting more for themselves than the best interest of your kid? My guest, Lisa Johnson, is a certified domestic violence advocate and the cofounder of a divorce coaching program called Been There Got Out. We’r…
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I often talk about parenting the kid in front of you, not the one you wish you had or the one you’re afraid they’ll become. Today, I’ll explain three thoughts that you’ve probably experienced when you don’t like your kid’s behavior or parts of their personality, why judgments about your kid aren’t helpful and what to do instead. You’ll Learn: The p…
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When kids lie, it can feel personal or like a moral issue. But just like so many other challenging behaviors, it is a strategy that your child uses to communicate their negative emotion. It’s normal kid behavior (not a character flaw). In this episode, I’ll share a handful of common reasons kids (or anyone for that matter) lie, why trying to get th…
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Hearing your kid say, “I hate you” can be one of the hardest things to hear as a parent. Today, I’m giving you tangible, easy to apply strategies for handling “I hate you,” including ways to feel less upset by it and change the pattern. In this episode: Why kids say, “I hate you,” even though they don’t really mean it How to protect your feelings W…
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