Today we are talking about experiencing the world through our emotional perspective. Giving yourself grace and patience while you are having your emotions. Getting through tough experiences. #trustyourself #emotionalawareness #emotioalperspective #mentalhealth Get your copy of Best Intentions: The things we do for love https://bookstore.dorrancepub…

Today we are talking about nurturing relationships. Attending to the relationships you want to grow and evolve, especially the relationship with yourself. #growth #nurturing #relationships #bestintentionsthebookBy S Aschenbrenner

Today we are talking about controlling what you can in the moment, checking your facts, and keep going. This past week was rough. Lots of emotions. We still have to do things. #postelection2024 #bigfeelings #bestintentionsthebook #mentalhealth #politicsasideBy S Aschenbrenner

Today we are talking about when helping is not helpful. There are times we think we are helping and it makes things worse. It can be disempowering the person we are trying support. #nothelpful #resentment #needs #rescuing #helping #bestintentionsthethingswedoforlove https://bookstore.dorrancepublishing.com/products/best-intentions-the-things-we-do-…

Today we are talking about relationship communication. I go over a tool I use often to help clients build helpful communication skills. I use the 6 Steps to Great Communication by Cynthia Hansen https://lifeandbeautyweekly.com/2010/10/communication_skills/ #communication #relationships #skillbuilding #connection #lx2codependencycoachingpodcast…

Today we are talking about being able to access and process our own emotions. Emotional intelligence is about being aware of what we are feeling, authentically showing up, and have compassion for our emotional selves. #emotionalvulnerability #feelyourfeelings #emotionalawareness #newbook #bestintentions #greece #somaticemotions…

Today we are talking about denial and the things we refuse to look at. Often we avoid addressing things head on because we don't know what to do to change them. We don't know where to start. We start by acknowledging they exist. #denial #makingchanges #smallsteps #mentalhealth #elephantintheroomBy S Aschenbrenner

Today we are talking about distraction vs detachment. Often, when we are feeling tough emotions we want to distract ourselves in order not to feel. Whereas detachment might be a better move. Unattached from the outcomes but working through the feelings. #emotions #detachment #distractions #dothework #mentalhealth #lx2codependencypodcast…

Today we are talking about satisfaction, suffering, and satisfaction. We get to choose how much of those things we endure or get from life. We can manage our resources, create goals, and set boundaries to a better experience through life. #satisfaction #sacrifices #boundaries #betterlife #mentalhealth…

Today we are talking about memories and how we can change the narrative. We can recall something from a different perspective. We can create a better understanding of who have been and who are becoming. #memories #rebuilding #resilience #childhoodBy S Aschenbrenner

Today we are talking about forgiveness, bridges, and napalm. We get to determine the relationships that warrant forgiveness as it relates to our peace and access to our resources. Boundaries and bridges help keep us safe and maintain connection. #maintainpeace #forgiveness #burnorbuild #bridges #connection #lx2codependencypodcast…

Today we are talking about the big three things I talk to clients about often often to evaluate how they are feeling: Food, exercise, and sleep. All of these things have an effect on our mood and energy. #sleephygiene #foodmatters #moveyourbody #mentalhealthBy S Aschenbrenner

Today are talking about motivation and fuel we use to get there. We can use lots of different things to drive us to change, healing, and growth. What fuel are you using and is it sustainable? #motivation #growth #change #beingnewBy S Aschenbrenner

Today we are talking about using routines and rituals to help us regulate our anxiety. Our brains strive for order. When we can consciously create routine, things we do in a habitual way, we make our brain feels better. The meaning and intentions behind the routine can make it a ritual. #routines #habits #anxiety #mentalhealth…

Today we are talking about who is in your inner circle of humans. Who do you feel safe and comfortable with. What those bonds are made of. We get to determine the level of closeness and vulnerablility we share with people. #innercircle #vulnerability #boundaries #communityBy S Aschenbrenner

Today we are talking about the assumption of suffering as it relates to compassion and empathy. We are all going through our things; good, bad, or otherwise. If we can assume people are struggling, it is an opportunity to be kind to ourselves and others. #selfcompassion #suffering #expectations #grace #kindness…

Today we are talking about shift perspective from a zero sum absolutes mindset. It is not all or nothing, win or lose, love or hate, but something in between. When we can shift perspective and find a middle ground we are less likely to experience such distress or discomfort. #zerosumgame #detachment #5yearanniversary #x2thexennial #classof 91…

Today we are talking about the idea "righteous" indignation. The idea of getting angry or frustrated on behalf of someone else. When we are frustrated or irritated about someone else's choices it is an opportunity to recognize what we can control. We can consider the idea that we disrupt our own peace by taking away someone else's ability to manage…

Today we are talking raising sheep or wolves. Thinking about using the opportunity to teach our precious children how to exist the world that can be dangerous. It is our job to teach our kids skills to be safe and secure on the planet where they can get their needs met without sacrificing themselves. #parenting #raisedbywolves #otherpeopleskids #pu…

Today we are talking about finding gold in your everyday rather than waiting for the "golden years" or "bucket list". Make a to do list and put gold in everyday. #findinggold #emotions #anxietyanddepression #eldorado #kintsugiBy S Aschenbrenner

Today we are talking about detaching form the myth of being happy and shifting to the feeling of experiencing joy in moments. Sustaining happiness all the time isn't possible. What we can do it experience joy in moments of regular. #happinessmyth #experiencejoy #momentbymoment #doyourbest #beautyinthemoment…

Today we are talking about the importance of meaningful relationships to our longevity and quality of our lives. Our human experience is motivated by connection. We connect with people all the time, creating meaningful connection helps us live well. #meaningfulreltaionships #friendships #buildingcommunity #lx2codependencycoachingpodcast #daringgrat…

Today we are talking about the blessings and lessons we experience when we create the perspective of receiving. When we can start to be receiving of good things happening to us rather than waiting for negative things to happen. #blessingshappen #growthmindset #opportunity #lessons #whathappenedtoyou #trauma #mentalhealth #lx2codependencycoachingpod…

Life happens and we can get stuck in the why. We don't always know why this tough part of life is happening. It might just be the how. Controlling what we can gives a moment to take back power in the moment it can get easier. #controlwhatyoucan #wecandohardthings #lifehappens #getthroughthemoment #codependencypodcast…

Moving forward into our life can be difficult when we are feeling multiple things at the same time. Being human is allowing ourselves to feel our emotions and doing the business of living. We can get get passed the hard things. #whatareyoufeeling #mentalhealt #persistence #atlasoftheheart #growing #doitanyway…

Today we are talking about having needs and who we are rely on to meet them. #needs #chosenfamily #mentalhealth #rhainacohen #lx2codependencycoachingpodcast #friendshipBy S Aschenbrenner

There are so many teachers in our lives. We learn lessons through out our lives. Many of the things we learn feel random but they are all teaching us the things we need to grow into the best version of ourselves. #lessons #bestteachers #growthmindset #unintendedlessonsBy S Aschenbrenner

We can get in our own way of our growth and progress. It is helpful to be aware of when we are triggered, what is motivating that, and how are we feeling about things. In learning new skills, we might get in our own way and have to restart. #mentalhealth #growth #selfsabotage #hurtingourselvesBy S Aschenbrenner

Today we are talking about the default setting and shifting our perspective from our trauma to our growth setting. When we are learning new skills, we will default back to old skills. There are times when we are healing our old behaviors, its helpful to recognize old coping still exists. Integrating new skills takes time and it can be existing. We …

Trust is something people struggle with. Where trust issues come from is feeling confident in who you are and secure in your ability to be vulnerable with others. We have to see who people are and whether they can hold space for you. If they are consistent in showing up with kindness, grace, and compassion. Not everyone is trust worthy but when you…

Quitting things, relationships, and behaviors is challenging. Changing habits and having to engage our brain in what we do can create a lot of discomfort, and it is worth it. #quitting #doingnewthings #growth #changethebehavior #choosingyouBy S Aschenbrenner

When we do not feel safe sharing our emotional self we can shape shift to different version of ourself contributing to the delusion. We become different versions to keep the status quo. Being our whole authentic self takes work. We have to embrace who we are, all of our parts at the same time. #authenticself #healing #shapeshifting #secrets…

Today we are talking about detaching from the delusions of how we see the people we want to be in relationship with. #detachment #delusion #codependency #emotionalinvestment #mentalhealthBy S Aschenbrenner

Today we are talking about the loneliness that comes with growing and healing. #mentalhealth #selftalk #loneliness #boundariesBy S Aschenbrenner

Today we are talking about the idea of making hard challenges. When we willing to face the challenges in our lives that are uncomfortable. We can face them with an attitude of "how hard can it be"? We can change our circumstances even when it is hard. #growpastthechallenge #howhardcanitbe #trustyourself…

Today we are talking about ways to nurture the parts of ourselves that still need some momming or dadding, nurture, and love. Part of healing and growing past unhelp coping is is by loving those parts of us that needed to be seen. #nurtureyourself #lovingbetter #mentalhealth #havingpatiencewithyouBy S Aschenbrenner

Can affirmation help and influence change and growth? YES and it is helpful when we are dealing with change. We have to increase are awareness of what is happening now. We have to look at the bad so we know where to make changes. #positiveaffirmations #healing #growth #mentalhealth #socialmediaBy S Aschenbrenner

Today we are talking about working through those hard moments and creating the life they want. #movingforward #lovingbetter #pasthismoment #mentalhealth #lettinggoBy S Aschenbrenner

Today we are talking about changing how we process emotions by learning new tool and updating how we were originally programmed. We get to choose how we process emotions once we have more tools to manage the situations we are facing. #emotionalprogramming #doingthingsbetter #mentalhealth #lovingbetter #whatnowpodcast #lovingallofyourversions #chang…

Today we are talking about not feeling like you are enough and how that can lead to you doing too much. We can feel like we need to validate our worth by doing so much more, we get angry, tired, and overwhelmed. It is helpful to pay attention to what we actually have capacity for. #lovingbetter #doingtoomuch #youarerenough #mentalhealth #codependen…

Today we are talking about patterns, behavior, and meaning. We have the opportunity to change the pattern that happen in our lives by changing our behavior over time. We can shift the meaning we assign to things. #change #mentalhealth #shiftingpatterns #meaningandpurposeBy S Aschenbrenner

In relationships we often feel like we need to fix problems for other people to keep them in our lives. A helpful thing to start to recognize is IF it is a you problem or a them problem. Then we can allow space for people to address their own problems or for them to acquire tools to fix things for themselves. #notayouproblem #skillbuilding #mentalh…

Today we are talking about aligning our words with our behavior especially when we are creating healthy habits and coping skills. The idea of follow through. Increasing our awareness of how we feel. Changing behavior requires action consistently. #newyear #healthhabits #goals #followthrough #mentalhealth…

Today we are talking about the end of the year. Looking back not just at 2023 but relistening to the popular episode of Anxiety Loneliness and Depression originally posted 7/25/2019 https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-krijt-b92c2f We are all doing the best we can. You have made it through the best we you can. Proud of you! #endoftheyear #growth #mentalhe…

Today we are talking about parenting and detaching from the outcome. The Nurtured Heart Approach is a parenting model I endorse. #toxicparenting #detachingfromtheoutcome #lovingbetter #raisinghealthykidsBy S Aschenbrenner

How we trust ourselves and show up fully we have to be aware of what our authentic self is. Being your most authentic self takes a level of knowing and appreciating who we are, all of our parts, at the same time. We have core values that stay static. Trusting yourself and being securely attached to you is being attached to those core values. #authe…

Often we can break our own hearts by holding on to unrealistic expectations or outcomes. We hold on so tightly and then we "should" ourselves into anxiety and depression. Once we can let go and just be present gratitude gets easier. #90scountry #unrealisticexpectations #lettinggo #shoulding #livinginthepresent…

What emotions are we holding on to that are keeping us stuck. When we have hard things happen we assign meaning to certain feelings. Especially this time of year we have traditions and we get to assign meaning to those traditions. The meaning we place on those traditions is up to us. We get to change the meaning and the feeling associated to those …

We are talking about secure attachment to ourselves rather than having to be securely attached to another person or outcome. When we have attachment wounds we can be reacting to an old version of who we have been when our needs didn't get met. We attach to certain outcomes of how we expect things to be. #attachment #loveyourself #mentalhealth #pivo…

Today we are talking about the ways we transform through our lifetime. How we evolve and change adapting to our current circumstances. #growthmindset #adapting #changeovertime #mentalhealth #skillbuilding #detatchmentBy S Aschenbrenner