I’m Liana Kerzner and I am not a therapist! I navigate the madness of mental health with interesting guests, inspiring stories and real questions from regular people!
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Canadian TV icon Ed the Sock and his foil, the outspokenly witty redhead Liana K, talk about news, politics, music, TV, movies, comic books, sports, pop culture and anything else under the sun, in a stream-of-consciousness podcast that rivals James Joyce's Ulysses. Okay, not really, but this is supposed to be hype, right?
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That's the title of trauma therapist Amanda Ann Gregory's new book, and her book's synopsis, "(f)eeling pressured to forgive their offenders is a common reason trauma survivors avoid mental health services and support. Those who force, pressure, or encourage trauma survivors to forgive can unknowingly cause harm and sabotage their recovery" gives A…
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They aren't cosmically-powered superheroes, but understanding them can give us greater power over ourselves and lead to happier lives. Values, Needs, Boundaries and Manipulations - understanding these four building blocks is key to achieving better mental health, and Liana shares personal experiences to show you how you can do it.…
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The TV show "Seinfeld" popularized the line, "It's not you, it's me." And while George Costanza wasn't being sincere, the truth is that for a lot of people, it is them! Liana takes us through the top 10 things people do that drives others away from them in romantic relationships, friendships and work situations.…
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No, probably not. True narcissists - those with Narcissistic Personality Disorder - are rare. But you don't need to be a narcissist to behave like one; personality traits can be absorbed from others without our realizing it. Liana guides us to understand what true narcissism is and, importantly, what it isn't...and how to effectively deal with one.…
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Real talk: society trains girls and women to use feminine stereotypes to bully other women - and to use the same stereotypes to get away with it. Liana shines a light on the tactics female bullies use and the cultural attitudes that enable and excuse the behaviour.By Liana Kerzner
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Social anxiety is a real and growing phenomenon that deters folks from meeting new people, or being successful when meeting new people, or from even going out to places where there will be new people! Liana offers her personal first-hand experience with social anxiety and offers some tools that helped her and may also help you.…
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Losing it leading up to the holidays? You're not alone. Economic uncertainty, politics turning relationships with friends and family into a pressure cooker, the loneliness this time of year can bring on...it's not surprising if you feel like you're losing it! From her own personal experiences, Liana offers some suggestions on how to calm turbulent …
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A Response To Those Treating The United Healthcare CEO Shooter Like A Hero
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48:01We're Better Than This...Aren't We? Maybe not right now, but we still can be. The reaction to the murder of an American health care executive spurs Liana to examine how our current societal distress has led us away from our better angels, using deeply personal revelations as a guide.By Liana Kerzner
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What To Do If Your Friend Is Suicidal - Unedited, Uncensored Bonus Version
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56:08The unedited version of episode 112 with Aquila and Jerry. If you're experiencing thoughts of suicide call the national crisis line in North America at 988.By Liana Kerzner
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What To Do If Your Friend Is Suicidal - Clean Radio Version
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48:01Discussions of suicide are usually heavy on statistics; this episode focuses on people affected by suicidal thoughts and actions. Liana talks to show regular Aquila and her friend Jerry, who talked her through a harrowing personal crisis a few months ago. What prompts suicidal ideation and what helps - and does not - when speaking with someone cons…
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We have nothing to fear but fear itself...but that's still frightening! The truth is that the fear of facing our fears is a double-whammy that contributes to depression, anxiety and making bad choices that keep us from realizing our goals. Liana is joined by hypnotist Sainoor Premji (2BHypnosis.com), whose specialty is teaching how to turn fear fro…
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Trust is a very precious thing, and a fragile one - once it is broken, regaining it is a delicate process. How can you regain the trust you've violated, and what can someone do to re-earn your trust? Liana has some answers based in her own experiences that may help you with your own trust matters of trust.…
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How To Stop Hating Working With Other People
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48:01Humans became the dominant species on Earth by working together - which is likely a surprise for anyone who's had to work on a group project. Rather than pooling everyone's strengths, group efforts often falter due to individual weaknesses. Rob Lion, Ph.D. of Training & Performance Improvement, professor at Idaho State University and co-founder of …
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Boundaries are limits you set for the kind of behaviour you will accept from others and what others will accept from your behaviours. In theory. But the fact is that many of us were raised with poor boundaries or none at all, which impacts how we are treated and how we treat others - and never in a good way. Liana takes us through the Top 10 Bounda…
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I'm Sorry, That's Not an Apology. (Neither was that sentence.) Ever wonder why an apology doesn't deliver the results you thought it would? Even when you're sincere, sometimes an apology misses the mark and Liana presents the Top 10 Reasons that happens - and the steps you can take to get better results! Seg Times 1) 10:10:10 2) 17:29:02 3) 32:10:1…
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Healthy Hurting - Resilience and Leadership
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48:01We've probably all heard the saying "Life is not about how many times you fall down - it's about how many times you get back up." Sure, sounds good. But how do we get back up? Resilience is an essential life skill we can learn and Liana is joined by Angie Lion, Chief Soul Officer of Black River Performance Management (blackriverpm.com) to talk abou…
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What Helps Women Rise, and What Makes Them Fall?
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48:01"If you’re anything like me, you’re tired of folding yourself into a neat little box with clean descriptors that make linear sense. Women’s lives and experiences just aren’t like that. The messiness of our lives is a main ingredient in the mysticism that is womanhood." Author & women's mentor and coach Megan Dalla-Camina https://womenrisingco.com/ …
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Diet Culture - What it is and What We Can Do About It
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48:01As people have pointed out, the word 'diet' begins with 'die' - society's unhealthy focus on a person's weight has killed the self-esteem of too many men and women - too often with fatal results. The 'diet culture' messaging that bombards us is based in outdated attitudes, racial biases, perceptions of wealth and commerce. Liana talks about the pro…
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When many people lean on you for emotional support, who do you lean on? This is a question that caregivers and members of the clergy wrestle with every day. US Army Lt. Colonel Rebecca D'Angelo, speaks to Liana about how military clergy face the challenge, with information that caregivers can model in their own lives.…
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There is a loneliness epidemic uniquely affecting men. Why do men have fewer friends than women - and how does that affect their relationships, self-worth and potential for success? Also... why do men have fewer friends than women?? Liana talks to game designer James "Grim" Desborough of Postmortem Studios (post-mort.com) as they explore answers fo…
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Canada's first female mayor, Dr. Charlotte Witten, said “Whatever women do they must do twice as well as men to be thought half as good. Luckily, this is not difficult.” With respect to Dr. Witten - yes, it really is. Dated perspectives often punish women for the very thoughts and behaviours men are celebrated for. But this isn't a man vs woman iss…
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It's the 100th episode! Liana uses her Top 10 Sayings to share what she has learned from her discussions with expert guests about mental health recovery, the strengths & weaknesses of mental health systems and treatments and the essential role of peer counseling.By Liana Kerzner
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The media feeding frenzy and intra-party backstabbing that forced US President Joe Biden to withdraw his candidacy for the 2024 Presidential Election wasn't just politics - it was a profound example of our society's long-standing prejudice against older people. Award-winning U.S. author and psychiatrist Dr. Ravi Chandra https://ravichandramd.com/ j…
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It's just a fact that all of us harbour some kind of prejudice. It doesn't need to be based on things like religion or ethnicity, it may be as small as attitudes toward movie genres or sports teams, but it's a part of the human condition. Where does it come from? Liana takes a journey through how to recognize prejudice, find its source, and disarm …
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How To Talk To Your Friends Who Have Different Politics
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48:01We're in an era of political bad crazy, and friendships that have lasted decades are crumbling because of political fights. Why does this happen, and what can you do about it? Liana looks at social identity threats on this episode!By Liana Kerzner
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Yoda is well known for saying hate leads to the Dark Side. Though it's an impulse that is human and natural, it never leads anywhere good. Liana, no novice when it comes to being a target of some peoples' enmity, talks about how to handle being hated, what to do when you're the hater, and how to stop hating yourself, in a world where everyone is en…
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Ever wished you could have an owner's manual for your brain - a reference you could turn to when facing mental and emotional health issues? That book is You Will Get Through This and Liana talks to the authors, 3 mental health professionals, about their approach to getting a handle on common mental health challenges. Link to the book by Julie Radic…
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Are You Being Gaslighted (Gaslit?) by "Therapy-Speak"?
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48:01What is 'Therapy-Speak'? People using mental health care terms like 'gaslighting' and 'narcissism' without knowing what they really mean. Too many people use Therapy-Speak to win arguments and marginalize people with their 'diagnoses'. Liana unpacks what the words really mean, what they don't mean, and how to deal with someone using them against yo…
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Wanting attention for accomplishments, actions, outfits or just for being you is a normal healthy human desire. Everyone needs validation now and then. Narcissism is when wanting attention crosses into needing attention - and that's not good. Liana lays out a list of what separates a healthy appetite for attention from the unhealthy cravings of nar…
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How we measure success or failure depends on our core values. So what are your core values? That's not the easiest thing to define. Liana is joined by Marianna Lead, founder of Goal Imagery Coaching Academy and author of the book Me, My Brand And Why, to help you name the personal values that guide your life.…
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How You're Probably Screwing Up Conversations
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48:02What we have here is a failure to communicate "So, what are you saying?" That's a question people get asked, but also one we should be asking of ourselves. Are we really delivering the message we intend, or has it gone (maybe horribly) awry? Communication errors plague everyone at some point, so Liana takes us through easy ways to get our message a…
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Introverts Unite! Believe it or not, Liana - Youtuber, podcast host, peer counselor and former TV personality & pin-up model - is an introvert. It is possible for introverts to navigate and succeed in a world built for extroverts and communications expert and NYU educator Nancy Ancowitz, the author of Self-Promotion for Introverts (a Quiet Guide fo…
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It's as simple as this - You. Matter. It's not your job, your family, your income - your value is inherent from the day you were born. So why do so many of us struggle with feelings of worthlessness? Psychologist Dr. Julie Radico, author of the forthcoming You Will Get Through This: A Mental Health First-Aid Book, talks to Liana about why we matter…
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Invalidation: How Your Abusers Continue To Hurt You Even After They're Gone
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48:02Validation - recognition that our thoughts and efforts have value - is essential for healthy self-esteem. Yet we're exposed to so much messaging that is invalidating, it's hard to fight it...but you can do it. One of the groups facing greatest public invalidation is trans people, and Liana speaks to Aquila, a military veteran and bi-racial trans wo…
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Why LGBTQ+ Mental Health Matters To Everyone
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48:02The rising tide of homophobia and transphobia has made 2SLGBTQ+ people targets of surging intolerance, and nobody knows that better than Fae Johnstone. Fae is a trans woman and advocate whose face appeared on a Hershey chocolate bar celebrating International Women's Day which brought her waves of hate and derision. Why do some people fear trans men…
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We all do. Our buttons get pushed, our emotions take over. But our attempts to defend ourselves often lead to offending others. And do we really need to defend ourselves? Liana walks us through the pitfalls that add fuel to an argument and some tools to use to get better results.By Liana Kerzner
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There was an issue with the upload the first time around! Description: According to psychotherapist and author Dr. Avrum Weiss, there's one relationship men have in common that controls their relationship with women - and most don't even know it. Liana talks with Dr. Weiss, author of Hidden in Plain Sight: How Men's Fears of Women Shape Their Intim…
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According to psychotherapist and author Dr. Avrum Weiss, there's one relationship men have in common that controls their relationship with women - and most don't even know it. Liana talks with Dr. Weiss, author of Hidden in Plain Sight: How Men's Fears of Women Shape Their Intimate Relationships about exactly that.…
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According to some experts, we're living in the age of narcissism. It's even been called an "epidemic". So...what is narcissism, really? How do you spot it, deal with a narcissist or find out if you are one? Jeremy Sherman, Ph.D., a self-described 'Jerkologist' and author of the book What's Up with A**holes?: How to spot them and stop without becomi…
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They're Shaping Your Brain! But it's not as terrifying as it sounds! Liana talks with Branding expert Matt Johnson, author of Blindsight: The (Mostly) Hidden Ways Marketing Reshapes Our Brains, about how your brain's mental shorthand guides you to make decisions you aren't aware you're making - and how companies use this to influence our thinking.…
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We live in an identity obsessed age and a lot of us are exhausted by it. However, how we define ourselves determines our self worth, self esteem, and awareness of others. But putting together our self-concept isn't like following assembly instructions from IKEA. Liana dives deep into her own difficult, heart-breaking experiences to show how the goo…
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Connections - In our digital world, opportunities for human connections are growing scarce - especially if you're shy, anxious, uncomfortable in crowds or socially awkward. Yet those human connections are what keep us feeling...human. Liana talks to Bobby Calloway, an actor/writer/filmmaker and content creator for Better With Bob? on YouTube, on ho…
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Massive content warning. Listener discretion advised. In the interests of disclosure, I'm putting up the entire, unedited interview Poppy and Zena did. It runs almost an hour long and contains additional details from the radio version of the show. This is the raw file, so there have been no audio level corrections or other adjustments. Because of t…
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Was I Assaulted? When Mental Illness Complicates Consent
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48:03LISTENER DISCRETION ADVISED. The Perfect Storm: dishonesty, violating consent, borderline personality disorder, gender issues and complex sexual politics - therapist "Poppy" and her partner Zena navigated all this together over one Christmas break. Liana hears their story, which is heartbreaking and, ultimately, uplifting. Note: the complete, unedi…
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When applied to old dark houses or Scooby-Doo villains, we know what the word 'creepy' means. But what does it mean when it's weaponized against men and women? It can lead to ostracism, fear and worse. Liana talks to It's Not Therapy community facilitator Jake about how & why 'creepy' is perceived, why it's become so powerful a word and how to hand…
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Do people blow up when you set boundaries? Boundaries are emotional 'guard rails' that have the ability to make us feel secure, happier and more fulfilled. Liana uses her personal experiences to illustrate how to establish better boundaries and why they are essential four our mental wellbeing... even when people react terribly to them.…
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Within today's political battles and social media landscape, it seems that lying is on the rise. And not even good lies, but obvious ones! Liana delves into the different motivations for lying (they're not all bad), how to confront possible liars and how to handle it when you've been caught lying! Also - Jedis!…
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In-Your-Face Racism and How to Deal With It
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48:05Racism and bigotry are making a comeback - or at least, they're speaking much louder. We know that millions of Canadians face overt prejudice every day, but do we know what that feels like? Liana talks to award-winning Canadian-Chinese author Derwin Mak about the overt and subtle anti-Asian ignorance he's faced for decades and how he deals with it.…
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Caregiving: Mental Health and Your Relationships
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48:03'We're in this together' - Mental illness affects not just the individual, but their friends, loved ones and especially their partner. Dr. David T. Culkin, co-author (with his wife Michaela) of OCD and Marriage, has had obsessive-compulsive disorder throughout his ongoing 28 year marriage. Liana talks to David about the need for honesty, respect an…
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Really, you're not! But you *are* facing a difficult life challenge that has you feeling overwhelmed. Liana talks to psychotherapist Jennifer Gerlach, author of the Psychosis & Mental Health Recovery Workbook, about how to overcome your overwhelm and live a better life.By Liana Kerzner
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