Gaslight (/ˈɡaslīt/). Verb. Manipulating someone by psychological means into questioning their own reality. The Gaslight Effect podcast is hosted by Dr. Robin Stern, co-founder of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and author of the best-selling book, The Gaslight Effect. On her podcast, Robin helps listeners identify gaslighting, to escape the destructive dynamic and reclaim their reality.
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Life is freaking hard. We are all doing hard things every single day – things like loving and losing; caring for children and parents; forging and ending friendships; battling addiction, illness, and loneliness; struggling in our jobs, our marriages, and our divorces; setting boundaries; and fighting for equality, purpose, freedom, joy, and peace. On We Can Do Hard Things, Glennon Doyle, author of UNTAMED; her wife Abby Wambach; and her sister Amanda Doyle do the only thing they’ve found tha ...
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A Superbloom is a rare botanical phenomenon that is associated with an unusually wet, and rainy season. After the rainstorms, seeds of wildflowers that have lain dormant in desert soil begin to germinate and blossom all at once into a beautiful and magnificent superbloom. This is what our host, Candice King, wants. Life has felt like one rainstorm after another and now, after laying dormant for a bit, I’m ready for a superbloom. On A Superbloom Podcast host, Candice King is asking others who ...
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Cameron Esposito: How to Save Your Damn Self (Best Of)
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1:06:57Glennon and Abby welcome their dear friend Cameron Esposito to discuss: 1. Cameron’s brutiful relationship with her body–and how it feels playing a sexy TV role. 2. The way Cameron grew up using humor as self-defense and to become socially “valuable”–and the moment she wondered if comedy was no longer working for her. 3. Why Cameron says she’s able…
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One Change to Go From Being Time Poor to Time Rich with Cassie Holmes
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1:03:40389. One Change to Go From Being Time Poor to Time Rich with Cassie Holmes Chaired professor at UCLA’s Anderson School of Management and best selling author, Cassie Holmes, discusses how much time is enough. She also shares how free time is linked to happiness – and the importance of defining your values to figure out how to spend your time. -The s…
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Elon’s Email Power Grab, What to Do & Why to Have Joy: Calm News with Jessica Yellin
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52:38Elon’s Email Power Grab, What to Do & Why to Have Joy: Calm News with Jessica Yellin Award-winning journalist, Jessica Yellin, breaks down the latest news unfolding in the US and world. Today, Amanda and Jessica discuss Elon Musk’s unprecedented power grab—and what it means for democracy, national security, and your everyday life, as well as German…
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LIVE from Mexico with Brandi and Catherine Carlile
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1:19:28388. LIVE from Mexico with Brandi and Catherine Carlile A big treat for you! In our first-ever live podcast recording from the Girls Just Wanna Weekend, Glennon and Abby welcome very special guests, Brandi Carlile and Catherine Carlile, to talk about courage, community, and how to approach all of life’s hard things. Plus, a special live performance…
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065 - Why We Keep Choosing What Hurts Us: Eli Harwood on Attachment Wounds & Healing Your Inner Child
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48:33Gaslighting can leave you questioning your reality, self-worth, and even your own memories. In this powerful episode of The Gaslight Effect Podcast, Dr. Robin Stern talks with Eli Harwood—therapist, educator, and author of Raising Securely Attached Kids and Securely Attached—to explore the deep impact of gaslighting, attachment wounds, and the path…
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Hannah Gadsby: How to Communicate Better (Best Of)
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1:05:281. Why Hannah describes her later-in-life Autism Spectrum Disorder diagnosis as “an exfoliation of shame.” 2. How neurodiversity affects Hannah’s relationships–and how she connects to the world through what’s “interesting” instead of what’s “important.” 3. Hannah’s revolutionary commitment to stop using self-deprecating humor about her body, sexual…
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Find Your “Tingle” & Live Wild with Justina Blakeney
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59:11387. Find Your “Tingle” & Live Wild with Justina Blakeney Multidisciplinary artist and designer – Justina Blakeney – joins Glennon, Abby, and Amanda to discuss living close to one's true self and Justina’s insights on self-expression and creativity. Discover: -How to know whether you’re having a spiritual awakening or a midlife crisis -The beauty o…
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What is Elon Musk Doing to America Today & What Can You Do About it? Calm News with Jessica Yellin
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1:04:07What is Elon Musk Doing to America Today & What Can You Do About It? Calm News with Jessica Yellin Award-winning journalist, Jessica Yellien, is back to walk us through what's going on right now in our country, and call our attention to very serious developments. We also discuss two things you can do to protect democracy and one thing you can do to…
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How to Talk to Kids About Hard Things: Sonya Renee Taylor
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1:03:18386. How to Talk to Kids About Hard Things: Sonya Renee Taylor Sonya Renee Taylor returns to help us talk to kids about hard things like climate change, racial injustice, and sex. -The three rules to keep in mind when talking to kids about sex or any complex topic -Why sharing reality with your kids protects their self-esteem long-term -How to buy …
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What Your Sign Says About How You Love: Chani Nicholas (Best Of)
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1:02:491. How to recognize when you’re dysregulated – so you can slow down and help yourself. 2. The beauty and wisdom in being judgmental, and how that saved Chani’s life. 3. The liberating idea that “The things that happened to me weren’t about me.” 4. How to set and trust boundaries in order to finally rest. About Chani: Chani Nicholas is a Los Angeles…
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The Science of Healing Heartbreak with Florence Williams
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1:00:56385. The Science of Healing Heartbreak with Florence Williams Author and journalist, Florence Williams discusses the science of heartbreak and the key to healing. -The four crucial steps to take when recovering from heartbreak -What is actually happening in our bodies when we are heartbroken -Glennon’s surprising revelations about her own heartbrea…
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Calm News with Jessica Yellin: Stay Sane AND Informed
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1:03:08Calm News with Jessica Yellin: Stay Sane AND Informed By popular demand, we present Calm News with our dear friend, and Award-Winning Journalist, Jessica Yellin. Together, we explore a new approach to consuming the news that keeps you (and us) informed without winding up our nervous systems. -What to do if you find yourself on “the ride” of the new…
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Date Nights: Why they Suck & How to Make them Great
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1:02:54384. Date Nights: Why they Suck & How to Make them Great Glennon, Abby and Amanda delve into the nuances of salvaging a relationship’s spark or excitement and discuss the role of “date nights” in healthy relationships. Discover: -Why “date night” is NOT a panacea; -Jealousy’s role in our relationships; -Why many people have affairs; and -How to “un…
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064 - Dr. Ingrid Clayton on Fawning: How People-Pleasing Became Survival & How to Break Free
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44:31In this powerful episode of The Gaslight Effect Podcast, Dr. Robin Stern sits down with Dr. Ingrid Clayton, a clinical psychologist, author, and expert on narcissistic abuse and complex trauma. With a Master’s in transpersonal psychology and a PhD in clinical psychology, Dr. Clayton takes a holistic approach to psychotherapy, incorporating trauma-i…
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At the end of our first full year together, Glennon, Abby, and Amanda reflect on We Can Do Hard Things, this community, some of their favorite episodes, and they reshare the very first show: 1. The original idea for the podcast and how it’s evolved. 2. Glennon describes how an anxiety attack feels – and the 3 strategies that help her find calm. 3. …
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Let Our Sundance-Winning Film Remind You What Love Is with Megan Falley
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1:00:49383. Let Our Sundance-Winning Film Remind You What Love Is with Megan Falley Glennon, Abby and Amanda sit down with poet and friend, Megan Falley, to discuss the magic that is their Sundance Award-Winning documentary film, Come See Me in The Good Light. The documentary follows Meg and her partner, Andrea Gibson, as they navigate a year of life, lov…
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How to be Sexually Confident with Mae Martin (Best Of)
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1:00:421. Mae, Glennon, Abby, and Amanda each explore their sexuality by delving into what sexually attracts each of them. 2. The sex-positive way Mae’s parents taught them about sex – and orgasm(!) – and how they never made assumptions about Mae's sexuality. 3. Gender as creative expression and a way to have fun. 4. Simple ways to switch up the monotony …
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What If My Partner’s Jokes Hurt My Feelings?
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53:34382. What If My Partner’s Jokes Hurt My Feelings? Abby, Amanda, and Glennon get to forget their problems for a while as they answer your questions on relationships and anxiety. -How to know if your words are a hit or a hug -What malicious joking reveals in a relationship -Whether anxiety fuels art -How Amanda and John have identified and dealt with…
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How to Survive This Absurd Life with Samantha Irby (Best Of)
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1:03:021. Sam’s life-changing strategies for (reluctantly) interacting with humans. 2. How we use humor to hide the lava of rage churning beneath our surface. 3. Sam’s friendship theory and why she doesn’t need a deep soul connection with every “lowercase f friend.” 4. Sam’s embrace of JOMO (Joy of Missing Out)–and why she genuinely believes no one else i…
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Glennon: You Can’t F With Art & Other Parenting Lessons
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49:31381. Glennon: You Can’t F With Art & Other Parenting Lessons In the midst of the LA Fires, Glennon, Abby, and Amanda take a moment to pause and reflect on a cozier time. In part two of this holiday discussion Glennon shares the life-changing lesson she got about love, control and parenthood and how that culminated in her gift from Abby. Amanda shar…
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How to Find Good Love After Bad with Lily Collins (Best Of)
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1:08:55Today we’re talking about how to build healthy relationships — with ourselves and others — after enduring toxic relationships with both. 1. Signs of emotional toxicity in romantic relationships – and what finally made Lily get out of her unhealthy relationship. 2. How to begin reprogramming your brain after leaving a toxic relationship in order to …
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Abby’s Greatest Fear & the One Gift that Freed Her
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52:11380. Abby’s Greatest Fear & the One Gift that Freed Her In the midst of the LA Fires, Glennon, Abby, and Amanda take a moment to pause and reflect on a cozier time. They discuss the holiday gift that Abby received that changed her life and shifted her story. -The powerful gift that helped Abby release her fear of hell and reconnect with her brother…
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063 - Breaking Free from Gaslighting: Andrea Owen’s Guide to Reclaiming Your Power
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46:34Breaking free from toxic patterns and emotional manipulation isn’t just a challenge—it’s a journey toward reclaiming your power and rediscovering your true self. In this episode of The Gaslight Effect Podcast, Dr. Robin Stern is thrilled to welcome Andrea Owen, a globally recognized life coach, dynamic speaker, and the best-selling author of How to…
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The Bravest Conversation We’ve Had: Andrea Gibson (Best Of)
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1:32:21In the conversation that’s meant the most to Glennon, Abby, and Amanda – poet and spoken word artist, Andrea Gibson makes the bravest announcement we’ve ever heard. Andrea shares how to boundlessly, relentlessly love our lives by: paying attention to the only thing we can control; letting go of living in fear; and feeling less alone and terrified t…
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Post-Inauguration Family Meeting: How We Will Get Through with Brittney Cooper & Rebecca Traister
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1:06:40379. Post-Inauguration Family Meeting: How We Will Get Through with Brittney Cooper & Rebecca Traister Activists, writers, and organizers – Brittney Cooper and Rebecca Traister – join us to talk about the inauguration and what’s next. They share their thoughts, feelings, and advice on how to survive the next four years. -The historical playbook for…
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Find Your Towanda with Tig Notaro & Stephanie Allynne (Best Of)
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1:10:261. Tig and Stephanie’s highly effective and hilarious ways to diffuse their marital feuds. 2. Stephanie’s experience figuring out her sexuality (years after she married Tig)–and how Tig knew Stephanie was the one. 3. Why Tig’s deep in “Towanda-ing” right now–and how that affects their marriage. 4. The power of knowing what you DON’T want in your li…
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378. Are Old Women Really Irrelevant? Glennon, Abby and Amanda are talking with you, Pod Squad, about questions around women and aging and wtf “processing emotions” really means in action. -How becoming useless to the culture will set you free -The truth about how to stop people pleasing once and for all -Personal tips for moving through an emotion…
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Reese Witherspoon on Friendship: What, Like It’s Hard? (Best Of)
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58:291. How to make the first friendship move – and how to move on from a friendship with kindness and clarity. 2. The advice Reese passes down to her kids about the three types of people you meet in life. 3. Reese’s Hollywood experience as a young woman – and the solidarity she found in the Time’s Up movement. 4. How Elle Woods – in all her iconic glor…
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What Is Intuitive Eating? Evelyn Tribole on Trusting Your Body
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1:10:32377. What Is Intuitive Eating? Evelyn Tribole on Trusting Your Body Glennon and Abby talk to renowned expert, Evelyn Tribole, about the principles of intuitive eating, the roots of diet culture, and the importance of self-trust in eating habits and overall well-being. Discover: -What intuitive eating is and three practical steps you can take to beg…
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Indigenous Religions and Ecological Wisdom with Professor John Grim
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17:50Professor John Grim, co-director of the Yale Forum on Religion and Ecology, discusses the relationship between indigenous religions and the environment, why religion needs to be part of the fight against climate change, and shares how he responds to climate change deniers. Transcript available here.By Yale Divinity School
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Double Date with Megan Rapinoe & Sue Bird! (Best Of)
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1:18:25For their first (of hopefully many) podcast double dates, Abby and Glennon sit down with the icons, activists, and Olympians Megan Rapinoe and Sue Bird. In this honest and hilarious conversation, we find out: 1. The delightfully awkward moment Megan and Sue first met; 2. What’s hard for each of them right now; 3. The boundaries they’re working on t…
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LA Fires: Jessica Yellin Reports From Glennon’s Home
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1:12:22376. LA Fires: Jessica Yellin Reports From Glennon’s Home Jessica Yellin was forced to evacuate the LA Fires, and is sheltering at Glennon and Abby’s home. She sits down with Glennon and Amanda to report what is really going on with the wildfires raging across Los Angeles. -Why there wasn’t enough water to fight the Palisades Fire -How to decide wh…
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062 - America Unfiltered: Emotional Intelligence and the Power of Seeing Beyond Divides
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54:00Today’s episode offers a compelling exploration of truth, resilience, and the power of storytelling in a divided world. At the height of the pandemic, two immigrant filmmakers, cinematographer Horacio Marquínez and film editor Kirill Myltsev, journeyed across the United States to uncover an unfiltered, unflinching portrait of America. In an era dom…
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How to Be More Alive with Cole Arthur Riley (Best Of)
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1:31:11In this beautiful conversation–in which Glennon names Cole’s book “This Here Flesh” the Next Right Book–we discuss: 1. What we learned from Cole’s insight that, “If you’re not in your body, someone else is.” 2. A mind-blowing revelation about all of our own faces that we will never stop thinking about. 3. Why the phrase “If you don’t believe you’re…
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How to Stop Worrying with Martha Beck
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1:03:06375. How to Stop Worrying with Martha Beck Martha Beck shares more on how to lessen anxiety’s grip by coaching Amanda, Abby and Glennon out of their anxiety spirals. Discover: -How to uncover the heart of your deepest fear -How to tell whether something is truly enlightening or dangerously false -The surprising power of living in a state of “I don’…
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Glennon, Abby, and Amanda help us shed guilt through a freeing reframe inspired by a conversation with Dr. Becky Kennedy. Listen to learn: How to know what is true guilt and what is just the uncomfortable ickiness of defying expectations; how to hold boundaries in order to live shamelessly within our own values; and how to maintain empathy by stayi…
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374. Life Beyond Anxiety with Martha Beck Martha Beck, bestselling author and life coach, returns to discuss anxiety including actionable strategies for quelling it and achieving a state of calm. This episode is part one of two. Come back next time, to hear Martha coach Amanda, Abby and Glennon out of an anxiety spiral. Discover: -The one powerful …
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How to Say No: Boundaries with Nedra Glover Tawwab (Best Of)
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1:10:031. Five signs that you might have a boundary problem. 2. Why each of us should stop pretending we’re not a needy person. 3. How to stop arguing like a lawyer – and start communicating like a kindergartener – to get what you need. 4. How to know when to end an argument, how to exit a friendship, and how to respond to passive aggressiveness. About Ne…
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Christen Press: How to Get Your Bliss Back (Best Of)
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1:08:521. The moment Abby – as Christen’s USWNT roommate – walked into their hotel room and knew Christen was very different than any soccer player she’d ever known. 2. The boundary that helps Christen love her people while protecting herself. 3. Christen’s take on death and how to keep the people we’ve lost alive in our lives. 4. How to show our people (…
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Being Left Out: Navigating that Lifelong Ache (Best Of)
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1:08:12Amanda, Glennon and Abby explore how to survive the lifelong, universal pain of being left out: What Abby felt when she heard “We don’t want you here” – and its long-lasting impact; Why it is so painful, and how to process feelings of rejection and isolation; How dissociation helped Glennon cope with rejection in the cafeteria; What parents should …
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061 - From Mess to Mastery: Scott Jeffrey Miller on Leadership, Mentorship, and Personal Power
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43:37On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern’s guest is someone who has spent decades guiding individuals and organizations toward clarity, integrity, and transformational leadership. Scott Jeffrey Miller capped a remarkable 25-year career as Chief Marketing Officer and Executive Vice President at FranklinCovey, and he now serves as an advisor on their thought…
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Sara Bareilles: How to Remember Yourself (Best Of)
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59:441. Abby shares with Sara the great personal impact Sara’s music has made on her life. 2. Sara and Glennon bond over the joy of solitude, the underrated gifts of being heavy-hearted, and the fact that “there are too many things to be worried about at all times” to be lighthearted. 3. When you are in deep stress, do you try to sabotage your job, rela…
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Your Hilarious (& Heartwarming) Holiday Stories! (Best Of)
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56:31Glennon, Abby, Amanda and the Pod Squad share their most brutiful and hilarious holiday stories. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoicesBy Glennon Doyle and Audacy
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Chanel Miller Promises: We are Never Stuck (Best Of)
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1:01:251. Thinking of depression as a way of seeing the world … through toilet paper roll binoculars. 2. Why healing might actually just be permission to go. 3. Chanel’s definition of success: refusing to succumb to perfection or exhaustion–and showing up as herself in every moment. 4. The healing moment when Chanel returned to Stanford and was held in so…
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The Presley Family Legacy with Riley Keough
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57:48372. The Presley Family Legacy with Riley Keough Glennon, Abby, and Amanda sit down with Riley Keough to explore her journey through love, loss, and healing within her family. Riley talks about co-authoring her mother Lisa Marie Presley's memoir, From Here to the Great Unknown: A Memoir, which recounts Lisa Marie’s life as the daughter of Elvis Pre…
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Are You Being Gaslighted? with Dr. Robin Stern (Best Of)
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55:31What is gaslighting REALLY and what isn’t? Plus, how to know if you’re in a relationship with a gaslighter, the three types of gaslighters, and how to break free from a gaslighter and reclaim yourself. About Dr. Stern: Robin Stern, Ph.D., is the co-founder and associate director for the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and an associate resear…
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I’m a Sociopath: Patric Gagne’s Story
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1:01:20371. I’m a Sociopath: Patric Gagne’s Story Patric Gagne – writer, former therapist, diagnosed sociopath, and advocate for people with sociopathic, psychopathic, and antisocial personality disorders – shares -What sociopathy is and how it shows up in her life; -The shocking statistic of how many people are sociopathic; -How her diagnosis affects her…
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060 - Gaslit By Doctors: Former CIA Officer Marc Polymeropoulos On Overcoming Medical Gaslighting and Finding Clarity In Crisis
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53:09On today's episode, Dr. Robin Stern welcomes Marc Polymeropoulos, a distinguished leader whose experiences offer profound insights into thriving under pressure and navigating the complexities of manipulation—including his own battles with the effects of gaslighting in high-stakes environments. Marc retired from the Senior Intelligence Service ranks…
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How to Know if You’re in a Cult with Tia Levings (Pt. 2)
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59:50370. How to Know if You’re in a Cult with Tia Levings (Pt. 2) Glennon, Amanda, and Abby welcome back Tia Levings for part two of this amazing conversation on her experience leaving a high control Christian Fundamentalist cult. Tia shares her experience leaving the church and her husband and offers advice for others in a similar situation. Discover:…
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How to Heal with Alex Elle (Best of)
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1:08:151. Alex’s four most effective healing techniques that you can start today. 2. How it affects us to grow up never seeing our mothers have joy. 3. Why – if you think you don’t have any self-soothing strategies – you actually just have unhealthy self-soothing strategies. 4. Childhood wounds that surface in adulthood, and the path to intergenerational …
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